My parents say they will only pay for my wedding if I wait but if they find out I did not they will disown me.
2007-10-23 06:56:27 · 10 answers · asked by Princess J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whether or not you decide to have sex before your wedding should be a decision you make for yourself, not anyone else. Your parents obviously have strict views on sex before marriage and want to instill them in you, but unless you whole-heartedly agree with their opinions, then you'll have to choose to do things your own way.
As an adult you need to make decisions without fear of reprecussions and can also choose whether or not to tell your parents. If you are happy to not tell them, there's every chance they'll never find out. But, if you feel you can't lie then you'll need to sit down with them and explain that you have ade this decision in a mature ways and are aware of safe sex and the emotional issues that come with it. Explain that you love them and hope they can respect your decision.
2007-10-23 07:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait for those reasons. I'm not fond of manipulation and if I thought my family was trying that crap on me they would get sent a video of me getting gang banged.
HOWEVER, I would wait if I wanted to wait, because I felt it was worth my time and effort.
Your virginity is your personal business and if their love is attached only to your virginity I would wonder how much your parents really love you. They should love you no matter what....but in your case that appears not to be true.
2007-10-23 14:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Each person needs to decide for themselves.
Did I wait ?--no,I did not..
Some can handle the emotional rollercoaster and others can't...
As for yor parents-- I'm not saying you should or should not-- but if you do, be careful where you are, use protection, and as my Grandmother used to say, " Some things we just keep to ourselves"
Good luck
2007-10-23 14:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wait.
2007-10-23 14:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by Danny K 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should wait. Not because of your parents but because it's the right thing to do.
2007-10-23 14:06:46 · answer #5 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I honestly would if I were you. A love based on sweet conversation and the love for just the person themselves is a strong and great relationship.
2007-10-23 14:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by juleyana 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
for one your parents will never really know. but if this is a personal choice that YOU want to do than do it! if you dont feel like that is for you then dont. its your life not your parents.
2007-10-23 14:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by blondie 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
YES. You should cause once you get started there no stopping you to besides they will know when you start having sdex. Your actions will change automically.
2007-10-23 14:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Caribbean Queen 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes, you should wait.
2007-10-23 14:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by Been There2 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
bit harsh.
2007-10-23 14:02:02 · answer #10 · answered by steven e 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋