20 / Female -- Parents seem completely uninterested in our lives.?

Question

Has anyone else experienced this?
Most parents I come across show an immense interest in the lives of their kids, from what they're studying in school, to where they're working, who they're dating, etc.
My parents seem to show absolutely no interest in our lives. It was as though they were completely oblivious to the fact that, surprise surprise, kids grow up, and we won't always just want to play catch in the backyard.
It goes further than that though. They're downright dead-weights. My brother is marrying into an Italian family next year, and the first thing out of my mother's mouth was a complaint about the location -- barely any congratulations!
Anyone else struggle with parents who seem inconvenienced to have children? Both of them make great money. Additionally, they haven't put any money aside for our weddings, educations, etc.
I'm independent and can manage on my own two feet, but it's simply about the fact that they don't seem to really care. It's a HASSLE for them.

Answer 1

Ouch, sorry, that means DEEP, DEEP and I hate to say it, PAINFUL resentment. Your hiding it, but I know you've got to feel the sting, becuase thats a product of not being completely emotional attuned. Which is to say you've got parents there, who are NOT the best people at conveying their deep and meaningful feelings. Thats why I say OUCH! ESPACIALLY because the biggest falicay in our society (and one, no one talks about) is emotional independence which is technically impossible with parents. But I digress, your situation you didn't really recieve much emotional support. Its easy with kiddos, its a game, its not even real. As you get older your forced to have to come to terms with your own life experience, this can be quite a hurdle if your not to "intuned" to the reasons you did things. So this puts a big hurt on the relationship.... how to fix this? Force relate, I've done it myself, make them talk about, ask them question, get inside there head, and always remain them its because you love them, sort of the opposite of most families;)