I have met this girl online that I am talking to. She is planning on coming over with her friend soon, when she comes over as my Friend's Girlfriend. She expressed to me yesterday that she has these feelings, and I expressed them too. But she said that it seems like it is happening too fast; I agree. However, we both came to an agreement that we should just let things happen as they come, if they come. But now my friend seems to know about everything we talk about. Seems she talks to him, but I don't like it. This friend was know to screw me up, especially with girls in the past. He's an evil sob, that will try to control my relationship, and make sure girl doesn't fall for me. He's done it before. I've know him 17 years. I didn't talk to him for years. But I met here through his girlfriend. So, how do I tell her I don't want her to talk to my friend about us, without pushing her the wrong way? I can't tell her about our rivalry thing can I?
2007-10-23 06:47:09 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he talks with her enough, it will end up bad for me. Seriously. I don't wanna say anything that will screw his chances up with his girl, cause that will mean that they all wont come when they said they will. Cause they were coming initially cause of her (the girlfriend of my friend). We were not friends anymore till a little while ago, cause he's like this. She thinks we are great friends, but he's a weirdo. But i really want her, and she has expressed wanting me; however, my friend told me that she said she doesn't want any sort of relationship with me. It's probably a start to all of this. I know the pattern. What do I do? I wanna keep her. She needs to feel comfortable with me.
2007-10-23 06:50:48 · update #1
Your insecurity about your friend seems reasonable enough. Just find a way to tell her a few things he's interfered in and how it affected your past relationships- but in a way that isn't condescending to him. Have some faith that she's woman enough to base her opinions of you by what YOU do and say. Your subtle insight to his character will help. But don't talk smack about him- that always turns a good woman off!
2007-10-23 15:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by shodair 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her honestly how you feel about him and if she asks why then explain in simple terms why....and then let things go from there. If she likes you enough and understands where you are coming from it shouldn't push her away....but it will explain to her what's all going on and give her insight to what's going on. I think you should tell her about the rivalry thing, she might get a kick out of it in the process and that can be a good thing....just be truthful and the rest will fall into place.
2007-10-23 14:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her the truth. Tell her you feel he may screw up you and her getting to know each other because that has happened before. It's up to you to tell her that he is a jealous, spiteful, mean person at times. Good luck.
2007-10-23 22:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by compendious 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't control who she talks to, but you can definately tell her about your friends rivalry problems. I had a friend like that before and I always told my boyfrieds just to be on the lookout because she always tried to come between me and the ones I liked. Talk to her about it.
2007-10-23 13:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If she likes you, she likes you. Your friend is not going to be able to change that. Just get to know her and show her how much you care about her. Things will happen if they are meant to happen.
2007-10-23 13:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by Delirium 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Speak the truth. It always comes out in the end anyways...
Good Luck!
2007-10-23 13:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by La_Belle_LadyR99 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her what hes done to you in the past and that she needs to watch out for him. If shes smart, she'll realize that you have known him for years and will listen to you. Just talk to her about it, but not forbid her to talk to him, just watch out for him.
2007-10-23 13:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by chevalrose 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yep, you sure can tell her. I would and she can do what needs to be done. And why would you keep on being friends with someone that doesn't look out for your best interests?
2007-10-23 13:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by Tre 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you like the drama. if this friend is such an sob then why meet girls that he knows. find another girl all on your own and see if that works out any better..
2007-10-23 13:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by howie r 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If she would've been mature about it she never had told the this other guy anything.
Can't she keep things personal?
2007-10-23 13:52:23 · answer #10 · answered by the girl next door 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋