I really care for this girl and she says she thinks the world of me. We did go out with each other last month and had a good time. But, she was still hurting over her last relationship and we both agreed that it wasn't fair to carry on seeing one another while she felt like this. Since then, we've remained close as friends. At the moment she feels as if she will never be ready for another relationship. I told her she should be single for a while despite it paining me to say that. The problem is that while I love hanging out with her, I still want to be with her and while being friends is easy, I somehow feel a bit guilty for wanting her as a girlfriend. It's as if I've got an ulterior motive in the way I act around her. I guess I'm scared that she doesn't feel like "that" for me anymore. But on the other hand just recently we've started getting a bit more flirty around one another again and in texts, where as for a while it was all too serious. How should I play this? I'm confused!
2007-10-23 06:27:56 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think she just wants you as a mate but enjoys the extra attention from you. i think if she wanted a relatioship with you, you would both be together by now. move on and prob she,ll come a running once you ease off,
2007-10-23 06:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by nicola b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you really need to do is just give her time, but at the same time be there for her as much as you can. It will really show her how much you truely care about her. If she gets flirty with you just enjoy it just be careful how far you take it you don't want to make her feel uncomfortable. If things don't work out hey you'll aleays have a great friend,but hopefully things will work out for the best. Good Luck and be patient!
2007-10-23 06:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by shhhshanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I reckon that honesty is always the best policy where situations like this are concerned. you obviously have strong feelings for this girl so ,tell her how you feel and try to make it clear that you are aware of what she has gone through and that you will not pressure her in any way. Some things are worth taking a chance on and this sounds like one of them. If you stand back too far ,you run the risk of her meeting someone else,and they might not be the gentleman you are .I think you should put your cards on the table. GOOD LUCK TO YOU .
2007-10-23 06:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend - for as long as it takes. She will respect and care for you anyhow - and perhaps she will realise just what you mean to her. If you push, you risk losing her friendship as well as anything else. Good luck.
2007-10-23 06:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by Sal*UK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend and encourage the flirting. She'll come round eventually when she clears her head of the other guy.
2007-10-24 01:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
push it as far as she can handle...
sorry but thats a long discreption i only read the 1st line
2007-10-23 06:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by edward s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋