It’s strange, older guys seem to find me breath taking. They stare after me in the street…once a guy even came up to me just to tell me that he thought I was pretty. My mom once yelled after two guys who almost ran into a tree because they were starring behind themselves to look at me, “She’s beautiful, right?!”
And I still feel…ugly. Guys my age…don’t find me attractive at all. My boyfriend loves me for my inteligence..
I can’t even look in the mirror, when I have to lean in to pluck my eyebrows I cry..I used to pick at my skin a lot…but there’s only minimal discolouration. Still, it makes me feel ugly.
Help, I just…feel like I’m drowning!
http://i150.photobucket.com/albums/s106/NSidney_album/pic20.jpg
^^on a really good day
http://i150.photobucket.com/albums/s106/NSidney_album/SkinPickersJourney002.jpg
^^on a horrid day (today to be exact)
2007-10-23 06:14:25 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have people that come up to you and tell you how beautiful you are, how could you think you're ugly? I think I am ugly too, but people tell me I'm ugly and it makes me feel like I am even more. But if people tell you, you are beautiful, couldn't that be enough to make you feel like you are.
And you don't need to be with your boyfriend if he is only with you for intelligence, because he should find you beautiful, and if he doesn't, he may leave you for someone he does find beautiful.
I looked at both of your pics and you look gorgeous. I don't know why you don't think you are beautiful. I actually think you look better on the 2nd one more than the 1st one. Everyone has little problems on their face and body. We get pimples, discolorations, scars, swelling, everything. At least you don't have so many pimples on your face, your face looks like a pizza, that's what I have. You are like the skinny girls that think they are fat, you are very insecure, and in denial or something. I think you need to try harder to love yourself, and I could use the advice that I am giving to you, but I really don't see how you don't see how pretty you are, that is sooo strange.
Look in the mirror, and say "I am beautiful!"
If it makes you feel better, where more make up or do something that makes you feel beautiful.
2007-10-23 06:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by ILike2HaveItMyWay 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your eyes are FABULOUS! Have those brows shaped.
Have a salon do them, it doesn't cost that much
Do all the things that make you feel your absolute best, every day.
When I am feeling down on myself, which I do every Birthday for some reason. I usually take myself to a Dept. store and get a facial make over. Maybe schedule a new hair style and get my brows done. Sometimes a new outfit too. It makes me feel soooo much better. Then out to dinner. Give it a try it really helps boost your spirits. Plus I always buy myself a small bunch of flowers.
Just know your are a beautiful person inside and out. We all have down times.
You know it might pay off to have your hormone levels checked. Thyroid and estrogen. Low hormones can cause depression, contributing to feeling poor about ourselves.
It is just a simple blood test.
God bless and Good Luck.
2007-10-23 06:22:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs to learn to love themselves for who they are. It is only until you embrace your qualities and accept (work on) any deficiencies you may have that you will be happy. Don't let all these media outlets (TV, magazines, ads) tell you what is beautiful. Everyone is beautiful. A lot of how others perceive beauty is how you carry yourself. Others will love you more the more you love yourself.
From your pictures, I can say you are a pretty girl. Be happy and don't let outside perceptions bother you so much. You'll be happier in the long run.
2007-10-23 06:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by thunderwood1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way that you do. I've lost 150 lbs, but I still FEEL that big, even though I know that I'm not. Guys my age don't find me attractive either, well, not the ones that I tend to gravitate towards. That leaves me feeling even more out of sorts. My mom once told me that body language says it all. If you are looking down when you walk, or don't make eye contact with people, people will tend to glance at you, then forget you. But if you present yourself with dignity, people will tend to treat you with the same. I've found for me that when I walk with my shoulders back, my head held high, (not snootily) that people and especially men, see me more. Even if you aren't confident in yourself, if you portray yourself to be, you'd be amazed at how different people look at you, but more than that, you'll feel better about yourself as well.
Good luck, and keep your head up!
2007-10-23 06:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
for the guys that think your ugly need to be locked up cause they are so wrong, Your cute as a button, you really look pretty. I can't believe you think you look ugly. Even without make up oh my. I bet with make up your so fine and look like a princes or a queen. no really. you look in the mirror again sweety. Don't have to change yourself at all. stay the way you are. really.
2007-10-23 06:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by jennajade 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Once you realize that beauty is not just an outward appearance, but an inward jewel - you will be okay.
Don't allow other people to decide how you feel about yourself.
If you turn 1 head or 100 heads, it shouldn't matter. If you feel that you are beautiful, then dang it, you are.
2007-10-23 06:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are beautiful!!! Do not let anyone say you are not!!!!
You are young, intelligent and the parts of them not looking you is because you look a bit ethnic, so they are racists those boys. Young boys is not were it is at, find some mature nice man at least 5 years older or more and you will see they think you are the princess that you really are!!!
Enjoy being pretty from now on...........
2007-10-23 09:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by STROMBOLI-KRAKATOA JR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're beautiful! Looks on the outside aren't everything if you feel beautiful on the inside you will illuminate that on the outside. If you feel that maybe you're having depression issues you may need to see a doctor who can prescribe something to help you.
2007-10-23 06:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like you can't be all that ugly, maybe guys are intemidated by you . stop looking in the mirror you are your own worst critic. even if you are ugly there are worse things in life.
2007-10-23 06:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by coolbreeze 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
youre not ugly. your very beautiful. try this, get your hair cut, eyebrows waxed, and buy a new outfit. this helped me, after i did these things i felt alot better. theres just something about getting a new look that makes you feel good. goodluck.
2007-10-23 06:20:36 · answer #10 · answered by deedee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋