2007-10-23 05:13:11 · 21 answers · asked by Billy Hughes 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I grew up with spankings administered by Mom, short lectures by Dad once in a while, time-outs, groundings, sometimes having to go to bed earlier than usual or losing TV privileges. Mom did the disciplining about 95% of the time, I would say. One of my sisters is more likely to yell at her children, while the other one is more likely to send a child to his or her room. My most notable memory of being disciplined by my grandfather was having him hold both of my hands still so that I couldn't tease and hit my sister, a good lesson on learning how to behave without being hurt or yelled at or lectured. Plus he did it with only 1 hand and was driving a car at the same time. Grandfathers know best!
2007-10-23 12:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by Cookie777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though I'm not Mormon, I live in the vicinity of Palmyra NY, where the sect began. So far I've never heard of Mormons being unusual disciplinarians.
I suspect that you're confusing Mormons with Fundamentalists--that conglomerate of Pentecostals, Southern Baptists and Evangelicals who traditionally beat the devil out of kids. These pious rednecks give new meaning to the term "Bible Belt." Such is America's corporal punishment cult. In the midwest or southern US you can find them in all their oppressive glory.
2007-10-24 12:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by Dear Carlos 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The same way that works for everyone else...have expectations and boundaries and be consistent. Children (no matter their religion or the religion of their parents) crave boundaries and perform much better when there are firm rules. And when expectations are high (not unreasonably high, but high) children perform, live up to and exceed the expectation. A child who is "status quo" generally has a lower self-esteem and is not able to perform as well....Mormon, Catholic, Muslim, Hindu. It's all the same.
2007-10-23 12:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't think every Mormon disciplines their child the same way. Do all Jews discipline the same? Hindus? Muslims? C'mon now. You should be above this generalization stuff.
2007-10-23 12:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
I cannot speak for all, only for my family. My husband is actually the easy one my sons go to in order to get away with stuff. When there has been a problem, I pull them aside individually and make sure that they understand what they did which was wrong and walk them through the steps to right it. If there needs be consequences, it usually stems from a loss of privilege [from missing out on an anticipated event or not playing with friends or no tv or...]. I learned from experience that love works much better than corporeal punishment. Love and service are also the best instrument in keeping harmony between brothers. [my eldest son went from only child at 5 to having 2 younger brothers shortly after his 7th birthday, he struggled to accept them and the loss of my full attention. Finally, I asked him to read to his brothers every day during the summer break -- reading was one of my eldests favorite activities and by reading his favorite stories to his brothers it fostered love and companionship that had been sorely lacking before]
2007-10-23 12:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by strplng warrior mom 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
What do you mean? We all discipline our children differently. I am LDS and my favorite discipline/ parenting books are: The Love and Logic series and Positive Parenting A to Z. Those are pretty mainstream parenting books. In fact, the government uses love and logic in their head start programs. That is the series they use to teach their parenting classes.
2007-10-23 12:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by gumby 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
My parents seemed to base the discipline on the misbehaviour. Too much Nintendo, take it away. Stay out too late, can't go out. Get in trouble around the house, go to my room. I only remember getting spanked once when my brother and I were being real rough with my youngest brother.
2007-10-23 12:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Senator John McClain 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
From what I've been seeing from today's youth not many of any group seem to be disciplining their children.
2007-10-23 12:21:33 · answer #8 · answered by just a man 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Lovingly. But don't confuse discipline with punishment. discipline is for the benefit of the child, where punishment is just to make the adult feel better. try a little time out with a talk about what was done wrong in a non shaming way.
2007-10-23 12:19:25 · answer #9 · answered by plastik punk -Bottom Contributor 6 · 10⤊ 2⤋
As many ways as there are parents
Speaking for myself I use a reward/punishment system.
I catch them being good and reward behavior I want repeated. When they DO misbehave privileges are taken away.
When I lose my cool I yell (which is counter productive and teaches bad behavior -- but I try not to).
D
2007-10-23 13:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by Dionysus 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋