Does a man want to be with a woman who has intelligence, great conversational skills and her own salary, or a woman who doesnt set the world on fire with any of those things? I have found that once a man realizes the woman he is dating isnt dumb and wont put up with crap, he bolts, or acts different. Why are men so easily intimidated by strong, smart women? Does a man want a quiet woman, or someone who can hold their own?
2007-10-23 05:05:28 · 15 answers · asked by Ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im just asking out of curiosity and past experience. I dont treat men in a harsh way, Im very nice; I just dont get why men arent attracted to smart women.
2007-10-23 05:16:00 · update #1
I have no problem with a independent intelligent woman , but what I have found with women that call themselves that is they are very judgemental , closed minded to certain things , and like to argue or debate as they call it...The ones I have met lack in common sense or street smarts..And if what I just wrote upsets you in anyway , you are one of those girls believe it or not...
2007-10-23 05:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by Confused 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think they are intimidated by smart women. You know that our society is all about men being the bread winner and taking care of thier wives and children but that is not the case anymore and its hard for men to accept that. I am a successful single mother of two and I have also found that men are intimidated by me but I know that there are some men out there that would like a smart woman so just keep looking until you find the right one.
2007-10-23 05:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by jenniferk5683 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
A real man wants what you seem to have to offer. Only insecure little ego having jerks want there submissive mothers to be their partners. Men want to be the king of the castle so an intelligent woman can be intimidating. Just hang in there chick, the right one will come your way and he'll sweep you off your feet. Sounds like you've only met boys. Intelligence is one of the most attractive things in a woman. You'll do well...
2007-10-23 05:24:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I see a problem with your question as I am unsure that men do get intimidated by intelligent and independent women. Is it possible that you have over rated yourself and that this might be your own justification to a problem you might have that would tend to annoy or turn off men? I think so. Intelligent and independent are not two qualities normally found in the female gender as attributes so you might want to look further at yourself and re-evaluate.
2007-10-23 06:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think that the archetype of the "intelligent and independent woman" is a myth. What is her counterpart? An "intelligent and independent man"? Why is he not exceptional? What is the antithesis to the "intelligent and independent woman?" Is it the "stupid and dependent woman?" Get my drift? These are nothing but personality traits. And NO. That is a self-indulgent argument. If a man doesn't want to approach you it is because he is intimidated by your greatness? Perhaps. But more than likely, he is not interested.
2016-03-13 05:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ashley sorry to disagree with your theory but myself I really do enjoy being with an equal and someone who cannot only hold there own but are proud of their accomplishments. I married a woman 5 months ago who claims that I have evolved rather nicely. Ha! She is an artist and very free spirited. She has her own business as well as her career in art and I am extremely proud of all she has done, especially being a single mother for so long. She can converse with the best of them and is a welcome addition to any social setting. Trophy chicks are more for the younger today and there are a lot of fellow;s that probably do subscribe to your beliefs of how women see themselves. But there are a lot of women who are actually very intelligent but pretend and/or play the role of not being so. This is very sad and gives woman like yourself a bad rap. There are plenty more males out there that are truly turned on by woman who are bright and I certainly hope that you find one to share your live with.
2007-10-23 05:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. some would want a submissive type. I guess for
control. but I view it differently. I would prefer an intelligent
woman who independent and the things you described her.
I view a relationship to be a mutual partnership, true love,
honest and alot of self sacrifice.
2007-10-23 05:15:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are intimidated by strong women. The men that are only want sex or a woman they can control.
2007-10-23 05:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I like spirited women and my wife has many of those qualities...which I love but those qualities are the exact ones that drive me crazy...It seems most women with these qualities appear pushy, know it all and always in competition with men. Most men do not want to be with a person that wants to be in competition with us.
2007-10-23 05:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men aren't intimidated by your intellect or independence.Your question itself makes you sound as if you might be afraid to ever allow yourself to be submissive at all,which I think is important for any man to feel.I would not be comfortable with a woman who has any doubt about my superior mental and physical qualities.There must be some man who is such a man that he makes you soft.You need better men.Stronger bull...
2007-10-23 05:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by doug s 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋