On Saturday night, my bf (who i was planning to marry) and I got in a huge fight. It was very loud, outside, at the dorms in law school. Someone called campus police. We were separated. The next morning, I went to apologize to him even though it was not just my fault. At any rate, since the fight, my friends have reported me to the Dean, claiming that I have an alcohol problem (we were both drunk at the time). I do not believe this to be true because I rarely drink, I just happened to have too much on Saturday. At any rate, my bf dumped me, and has since said he never wants to talk to me again. 3 of my friends refuse to talk to me. I am completely lost and alone. I am not a bad person. I make good grades, and I have lots of friends outside of law school who love me. How do I get over the fact that my world has fallen apart?
2007-10-23 04:51:59 · 22 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-10-23 04:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they really were your "friends," then your friends did not report you to the dean just because of this one incident. I guarantee it. In any case, there is not a lot you can do to feel better so soon after this happened. It will take some time. Whatever you do, stay away from the alcohol. That will only make it worse. I would probably drop in on the Dean and have a nice, serious talk with him/her and let them know you are taking this seriously and are dealing with it. You might even visit your doctor about potential alcohol problems, just in case. Even if you DON'T have an alcohol problem, it will make you appear proactive in investigating the potential problems. And DON'T talk to the boyfriend. He dumped you. Good riddance. It is probably for the best. If he got drunk and got in a big fight with you, you probably are better off without him. Meanwhile, hang out with the friends you still have, have some fun, get some work done, get some exercise (very important for dealing with stress and depression), and just keep yourself busy. The busier you are, the better you'll feel, and the sooner you'll get over this. But it is going to take some time. Good luck!
2007-10-23 11:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe your world has fallen apart
However I do understand that you are in a bad
situation because at one point everyone goes through
something like this. Well you will know if this guy really loves you he will come to you and make things work again.
The same way that you tried to do already.
But for the meantime I think you should give him his time to think about what happen and miss you.
So don't bother him and I am sure he will come back.
Because if you continue trying to get him back he will most likely reject you right now and this will make you feel worse.
So give it time to heal Also stay away from alcohol for now
just so you don't add on to the bad rep your friends have already given you. The last thing you need is to hear people telling you what your problems are. I believe that if things don't work out with this guy You will be strong enough to continue without him.
We all have those hard times we have to press on with.
what ever happens I wish you the best in the world.
:)
2007-10-23 12:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by Wicked Aliens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your World Hasn't fallen Apart simply that the people around are too ignorant too see that you are an amazing person being judged purely on one night of bad behavior if you have friends outside of the school then you should be OK keep yourself out of trouble and prove to everyone else you are not affected by your former friends petty behavior try and find new friends and stick with them and show loyalty to them and show the people who judged how much of a person you are.be brave through this time because you may be feeling low and lonely at the time but i assure you things will look up look to the future and i wish you the best of luck .
2007-10-23 11:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in law school and get good grades---Your life is far from OVER!!! If your friends left you over something this petty and small, then they weren't your friends in the first place! And, even if you did have a drinking problem how dare they nark to the Dean---soooo immature. That is your issue and they should be friends and be there to support and help you---not be back-stabbing LOSERS! I am sure you have better friends than that. It sounds like you are a typical college gal and there are also more fishes in the sea when it comes to men. You will find the one that is meant for you. Just be proud of who you are and that you are going to have an awesome career someday. :)
2007-10-23 11:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by Bailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you, but life isn't always fair. You should be glad you found out about you would be husband( you were planning on marry.) You stated you have lots of friends outside of law school who love you, go to them for support. FYI: You rarely drink, for a while why not stay away from alcohol. One bad night doesn't make you a bad person. Who hasn't had a bad night? Move on with your head up! good luck.
2007-10-23 12:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by candy c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to succeed at college, avoid alcohol..the truth will be evident.
I do not know what you were fighting about, but rejection from those you love and trust is always devastating! It doesn't sound as if this guy was worth the trouble.
Focus on YOU, being happy and successful without the acceptance from others. You will attract the sort of people you deserve!
Good luck!
2007-10-23 11:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by AytymnRain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your world has not fallen apart.
give your heart to the lord. he can heal anything.
if you got drunk, then you do have a drinking problem, point blank. drink to have like one or two beers not 6,7,or 8 to get that "buzz" or just dont drink at all. you'll be surprised how stupid people act and talk when your the only sober person around. apologize to everyone for making a fool of yourself, and get help to stop drinking.
keep your head up, your life has just begun, give your life to the lord, you will be surprised how much better life is.
if they cant accept your apology, then move on. dont rest your life and decisions based upon everyone elses. you are the better person.
god bless!
2007-10-23 11:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by † God Bless You † 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Stop drinking for 3 months to see if you are an alcoholic.
2. if you are not and alcoholic, stop drinking anyway because it is poison,,stupid.
3. get new friends that are not into drinking or drugs
4. find a good BF that does not have problems with Drinking or drugs.
Or keep going down the road you are on and destroy your life even worse that you already have.
My guess is that you are an alcoholic.
2007-10-23 12:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by crasher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I could tell you is give them some time. Maybe you can send them an email or a card apologizing, even if it wasn't your fault, it will help, and eventually they come around. I think your boyfriend will come back to you, if he knows how lucky he is, but if not, you deserve better. I'm sorry, this must be a tough time for you now, but just give them time..things will work themselves out.
2007-10-23 11:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say time heals all wounds. Give it some time - if they are really friends, they will come around. If not, find new ones.
Concentrate on your studies! You're paying a lot to be in law school. An attorney needs a tough skin...sounds like a good chance to develop yours....
2007-10-23 11:57:37 · answer #11 · answered by Gatekeeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋