Now that Im 29 when I see 18 year olds, they still have the body of kids & definitely the personality of one...The reason Im asking this is because I recently was given the opportunity for sex with an 18 year old, part of me wants to do it just because, then theres the other side that I think is my better judgement telling me its not right but I would just like to hear from some MATURE people here on what they think of this situation.
2007-10-23 04:47:28 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah they still look good but ya know.... Get a nice WOMAN.
18 year olds are wo-girls.
At 29, a nice REAL lady who is mature and isn't just a "OH MY GAWD I NEED BEER AND TO PARTY" chick is nice.
Age brings grace. Youth is immaturity.
Looks can fool ya.
2007-10-23 04:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are tempted to have sex for the sake of sex, then I would say "no." If you feel that he/she has the body of a child, then you should also say, "no." If you are truly interested in this person as a possible partner, then give it some time and see how you feel after getting to know him/her and if you still see them as a child, you know the answer. There is so much growth (physically and emotionally) between 18 and 29 that it's usually not a good idea. There are always exceptions to the rule but if you just want to have sex for the sake of sex (or just to say you had sex with an 18 year old), again, you know the answer. Hope this helps!
2007-10-23 04:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by goddessusie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are interested in a relationship with her- don't do it. In general, at 18, she probably isn't mature enough to understand the difference between casual sex and making love while in a relationship.
If you were to have casual sex with her it would more than likely leave you with a mess that you weren't looking for.
On the other hand, there is a 10.5 year difference between my husband and I and we started dating when I was 18 and he was 29. We were having sex but were also in a relationship. I was also very mature for my age, so, with the maturity difference between men and women, it kind of balances out.
2007-10-23 04:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I cannot imagine what on earth a near 30 year old would want with an 18-year-old child...(and let's face it, even though legally they are adults, they are still kids.)
When I was 29, I knew better.....so maybe you are really immature and they would be perfect for you.
It is difficult to say.
Just because something is "legal" doesn't necessarily make it right....
Maybe you need to concentrate more on finding a quality woman to have a REAL relationship with, not just having sex with a kid.
Plus, if you do this and you get a rep for being the creepy old guy who can't get a date with a real woman, you will regret it.
True enough.
2007-10-23 04:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
They may be adults, but 18 year olds should be regarded as "child adults." I say this because they are brand new to the real world and doing things entirely on their own. Unless they arleady have a firm foundation financially, intelligently, and in maturity such a decision is unwise for them to make.
All it takes is one slip up and the next 20 years could be hell.
18 may be legal, but it's just an arbitrary age that is slapped on, it doesnt mean the person is ready for anything.
2007-10-23 04:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be better not to. Obviously you have doubts about this and felt that it might not be best and I agree that you would be better off trying to find someone else that is closer to your own age. Sex isn't something to play around with no matter what age you are but being a mature adult means being responsible and 18 isn't the age of girls you should have any kind of relationship with.
2007-10-23 05:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by alymarie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she was sleeping with another 18 year old the risk of things going wrong would be just the same (probably more so) so the age gap isn't that big a deal. But if you suspect that SHE is making a mistake (which is quite likely) then you'll have a lot more respect for yourself if you make the right choice for her and say no.
2007-10-23 04:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you're having trouble with is moral issues. You know that, at age 29, you are not supposed to be having sex with a teenager. Eighteen is still very much teenage and they don't know what in the heck they are doing. She's too close to jail bait; better pass on that one.
While you're debating your sex life, try including more respect for women (and a little self-respect).
2007-10-23 04:55:46 · answer #8 · answered by Laredo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think I'm getting old. I remember when I was 21-23 and I'd see some 18 year old and think "damn, wish I had gone to school with that one." Now at 34 I see some 18 year old and think "damn why isn't he in school?"
It's a personal choice. If you still think of them as datable then go for it, but if your starting to look at them as kids, then don't, just too weird.
2007-10-23 04:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by Tara 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's legal, she's technically an adult.
But 18? You know she's a kid. I would say that I consider it wrong only because you KNOW that she is probably to immature to deal with a relationship (or lack of one) with someone your age.
She will most likely end up hurt, which I'm sure you are aware of. That's the only problem I see with the situation.
2007-10-23 04:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋