I'm finally getting over my ex...I've started dating this guy and we have so much in common..(struggles during child hood, life,etc;..and how we've both have overcome it and have made life better for ourselves..and even more..) He is the most anylatical, philosophical..caring person that I know and he gets me..he'll cook for me and drive 30 mins to my apartment..regardless of the time..he gives the best foot massage when I'm tired and've been on my feet all day (I'm a model)..i'm sure he knows that I have feelings for him...sometimes when I travel and come back I'll tell him that I missed him but in a very sarcastic way (I'm trying to protect myself, my heart)..he'll respond by giving me the biggest bear hug or a gentle kiss..sometimes he says it back.sometimes he doesn't..we joke around a lot..His mom lives out of the country and she recently came to visit;he wanted me to meet her, but I was in NY doing a show and when i got the message, it was too late..he won't say..he likes me.what
2007-10-23 04:16:36 · 18 answers · asked by gemimibeauty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best way to coax a man out of his shell is to be open with him. If you actual miss him then tell him, "I miss you", sans any sarcasm. If you truly would like to know how he feels about you, give him the opportunity to, ask him what's on his mind when you feel like there is something on the end of his tongue. AND if the man wanted you to meet his mother, he DEFINETLY has feelings for you that are real. In general the parents are left out of relationships that the introducer doesn't feel are potentially very important. We men hide our feelings because we're insecure, and afraid to be hurt. Men are constantly under pressure to prove their manliness or to show that they are in control of their lives and society as a whole do not except frailty or weakness in men, and most would prefer to avoid that situation even if it means they can never truly be open. I like the saying, "You will never know love until you surrender to it." If you want the man to show that he cares for you, be the bigger person and drop your guard, you could expect that he will drop his as well. It's okay to trust, just don't be naive.
2007-10-23 04:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by X 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes when a person (m/f) has been hurt they don't want to open themselves up to another injury.
U say u have a lot in common maybe he has been there and done that.
Sit him down and tell him how u feel (really no kidding) and u may be surprised. He may be waiting for u to make the first move, because he may not think u feel the way he does if u kid around so much about ur own feelings.
Try rubbing his feet and doing nice things for him.
2007-10-23 04:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Sissy C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men hide their feelings because they do not want you to know what they are thinking and feeling. Some men are afraid to express what they are thinking and feeling because they think that their wives or girlfriends will not understand them.
2007-10-23 04:22:09 · answer #3 · answered by Heidi T 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The reason most males don't show emotion is that it has been branded into our minds from the dawn of ages that men are supposed to be strong and not show emotion. We were also taught that showing emotion is a sign of weakness. And most men don't want to be perceived as weak. We're supposed to just remain stoic.
2007-10-23 04:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by Joe C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's just how guys are... they're very very different... women like to talk about their feelings, guys really don't hide it.. they just have different ways of showing it.. like the foot massages and driving to your apt... just look for it in the things he does for you and when he touches you.. that's how you know. You should try searching some more info about men and how they think.
2007-10-23 04:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by underwaterer1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys are wired differently. I know that is very cliche but it is true. As a guy I do not like to put myself out there verbally I would much rather show how I feel which is what is seems like your friend is doing. Cooking, massages, hugs...all signs that he does like you...is it so important you hear it right now?
2007-10-23 04:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by fearnthingil 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
see men act brave and tough trust me but really deep down there just like us and have feelings if I were you I would take him to a fancy resterant near buy orhave a movie night and share feelings or make out ya know
2007-10-23 04:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by paytie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because feelings are seen as a more femenin thing so to be more masculin men try to hide their feelings
2007-10-23 04:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by jakash15 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's harder for some men to show their feeling than girl..
Especially for them who honest n faithful, not the playboy one..
I want to hear the next thing that happen to you n ur ex..
Can u tell me?
2007-10-23 04:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by Lovato 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you gotta be kidding... in the middle of your rant you say how you say you miss him in a very sarcastic way cause you are tyring to protect yourself and your heart but you expect him to be open about his feelings...
you need to grow up. you only get back what you put out there and you sound like you don't put much out there and prefer games to honesty
2007-10-23 04:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋