and we have never lived together- We found a house that's for sale and it's 2000 sq. ft. They were asking $219,000 but it's been on the market for 7 months. Its had renovations in 2002, It's a very nice home. They are not asking $159,000. Is it too soon to buy a house when we wont be married until next Oct.?
2007-10-23 04:04:38 · 41 answers · asked by ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I meant..they are NOW asking $159,000
2007-10-23 04:10:20 · update #1
My fiance and I bought a house together and I also didn't want to live with him before the wedding. (I'm very traditional when it comes to these things)
However, we did buy a house together and he is living in it and any bills or anything that come in we are paying for 50/50. Plus, since I'm living at my parents house rent free it works and instead of him paying rent or moving back into his parents house, he's got his own place for now.
2007-10-24 01:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by glama_girl_4eva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I lived together for four years before getting married and have been married now for ten years. I definitely think that living together first gave us an advantage, because you never really know someone until you have lived together. With that being said, I must admit that prior to us getting married I was of the belief that marriage was just a piece of paper. (a formality) I could not have been more wrong. Getting married completely changed our relationship. It brought us a sense of intimacy and trust that did not exsist while we were just living together as boyfriend and girlfriend. We suddenly respected eachother more, took pride in introducing eachother to friends, family, and co-workers, and felt much more secure in everyday life scenarios. There are also other benefits to being legally married, such as tax breaks, employer insurance rights, and etc.....So while living together before marriage certainly does not hurt, there is no substitution for the real thing!!
2016-05-25 03:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live together. Me and my fiance are getting ready to build a house together. We want to have the house and live in it before we are married. We actually said we would not make any plans until we get that done. Its more important. Why waste your money on rent and not living together while being married or planning your wedding. You need to know if you can even live with him. Dont worry about it...buy the house if your financial able. Its great! Good Luck!
2007-10-23 07:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by Erin Shel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, who will live in the house and pay the note until the wedding day? Whose name will it be in? If something should occur in the next 12 months and the relationship ends, who gets the house? What if it's in 1 person's name but you've both made contributions to the payment and any renovations during that time?
A house is a good investment and if either of you could afford the house, alone, then it would be worth buying and you'd still be okay should something happen and you not have that other income to rely on in a year...otherwise, you may want to wait (if it would take both of you to pay for it).
2007-10-23 04:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
If it's the house you both love and don't want to let go of, the no. But if you're doubtful about it and think you can find better for cheaper too, then yes. When you buy your house, it's a relief because then you have a whole year to choose your furniture, paint it, and stuff like that. If you decide to buy it one of you should live in it though...because you will be making your monthly payments on it. Not both of you, because that will take away from the beauty of marriage
2007-10-23 04:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I personally agree with the whole no living together until we are married thing. But in this case, I think that it is safe to make an exception. It sounds like the two of you have already set a date, and have gotten the ball rolling. If you found a house now that meets your requirements, then I say go for it :)
2007-10-23 04:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by HoneyChild 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, well is this your < as in both> dream house?
If not, then don't buy it. There will be plenty of houses, and plenty of time to buy your home in the future.
I totally applaud that you don't want to live together until marriage. If you both need to bring income in to afford this home, then you should probably not bid on it, since you will end up forced to live together before its time.
Try to keep your feet on the ground, and remember that you both have a lot ahead of you, so don't jump into more than you can handle. But if you do get the house...well, you enjoy!!
(Blessings to you on your marriage.)
2007-10-23 04:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by Happy HBAC Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy the house. One of you moves into it and starts setting it up for your home together. The other stays in his/her apt. If it's too expensive to have an apartment and a house, then the one in the apt ditches the apartment and moves in with parents for awhile to save money. Why are you so against the idea of living together? It would make things much simpler. You could also live in separate bedrooms in the house -- like roommates.
2007-10-23 04:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by weirdiscomplimentary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you go ahead and buy the house and one of you live there until you get married. At least this way you will get the awesome deal on the house, then you can even go for visits and start decorating and setting things up but you dont have to live together. Good luck and congratulations!!
2007-10-23 04:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by Sherie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's too soon. However, I would ask you to live together in advance especially if you two have never lived together. There are a lot of things that one goes through when they live together that test the waters of marriage. Though marriage is something sacred and you're supposed to get through it because you love the person for who they are; you've not really lived with them to know their everyday habits. You may see the person everyday, and think you've been around them long enough to see bad habits here and there that can be fixed. You can't change a person no matter what you do if they don't want to be fixed. I recommend you live together for a few months before you get married...it will give you deeper insight to marriage with this person. (even if you're secure about the love)
All in all...No it's not too soon to buy a house considering you two are getting married.
2007-10-23 04:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by LadyD 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋