my boyfreind and i have been together for the better part of 4 years. the only thing that is bad in our relationship is his mother. she is a sweet person and all but when his dad left like 9 years ago, she has never gotten over it. i don't think ihave ever been over to her house with out her talking about her ex husband. ok but that's not the problem the problem is that she controls him, he is 23 and she still does all of his accounting, check book ect... it's fustrating b/c i know she is doing it as a conrtol issue. but he would believe me, i have been trying to find articals on the internet to help me show him that it;s not normal for her to treat him like she does, she is always sitting on his lap, staying up late to make him dinner ( he works 2nd) and the bottom line is its not healthy for eathier of them. please help. any advice won't be great i am feeling a little overwelmed.
2007-10-23 04:00:53 · 5 answers · asked by lissa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you’ll need her permission to convince him of anything.
2007-10-23 04:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by rayb1214 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why are you blaming the mother? He's being controlled because he lets her. He should balance his own checkbook and take care of his own accounting. Does he still live with his mother? If so, you should run FAST because you will always be second-best in his eyes. Until he takes control of his life there will be no room for you in it.
2007-10-23 11:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kathleen J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're going to need to let it go. If you two start talking about marriage, maybe you can lay down the law a little. But in the meantime, their relationship is between the two of them.
2007-10-23 11:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by jplrvflyer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are in a losing situation. he needs her more than he needs you and she's not letting go of him.
tell him how you feel and if he doesn't agree and make some attempts to change, it would probably be in your best interest to move on from mama's boy.
she needs a life outside of her son and he needs to get out of the house to make it right for both of them.
2007-10-23 11:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by Doodles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
emailed her and your bf a link to this site and your question.
2007-10-23 11:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋