I need advice... my daughter is in pre-k this year. They always ask parents to bring things in for special days, field trips, the halloween parties, ect. So my problem is two moms in particular always "takes over" the event or sign up sheet. The teacher seems oblivious to the fact that the same 2 moms are doing all of the parent involvement things leaving little if any room for the rest of us to help out. These two moms have already "steaked their claim" to being in the classroom during the Halloween party to help out (and obviously there can only be so many parents there at a time). So how do the rest of us moms that want to participate and help out get a cupcake (or a word) in when these other moms do every thing they can to make sure they are doing it all?
2007-10-23 03:39:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm lucky to be in a pre-school class that doesn't have parents like this. We have the snobs, but they rarely attend fun activities. I would just let the teacher know that the moms that you've spoken to are disappointed that they don't get a chance to help in the classroom, due to two over zealous moms taking control of the sign-up sheet and ask if there is anything that can be done about it. If the teacher doesn't seem like she/he is much help, then I would just bring whatever I'd like to bring and help anyway. Let them look at you with "mom" eyes, but who cares. You got to help and you got to spend time with your little one. That's really all that matters.
2007-10-23 05:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to bring the other moms into it at all. Tell the teacher you've really been wanting to help out in the classroom, but with the sign-up system she's got in place somehow you never get a chance. Ask if priority for future events could go to parents who didn't get to help out with past ones.
Also, I don't know about your preschool, but at my kids' preschool all the parents are welcome (and encouraged to be) in the classroom for parties ... even though they might not all have a "job". Even in the elementary school, where they don't publicize the policy because they're hoping not to have masses of parents, the rule is that if the party is open to any parents, it's open to all of them. Ask your teacher what her policy is on this.
P.S. I'd count your blessings about not having to bring in the cupcakes. :-)
2007-10-23 03:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by ... 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just talk to the teacher and let her deal with the other moms.. I think telling them personally may seem a little out of line. Maybe just mention to the teacher "Hey, I've really been looking forward to the opportunity to help out with this or that, but it seems every event has always been covered by these two particular moms.. any chance the rest of us will get the chance to help out?".. and then just leave it up to her to handle it.
2007-10-23 03:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by Legs 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In our school, they have room parents that perform the job of doling out in-class opportunities. It is their job to spread the wealth, to avoid just the situation you are describing. (Also, they are not to give themselves all the prime opportunities).
In your school, it looks like the teachers perform this function. Therefore, talk to the teacher about it. I wouldn't confront the other parents. There's no need to, if the teachers recognize the problem and begin making assignements to other parents too.
You could even offer to help the teachers keep track of who has done what. It is a big job (I've done it) to keep track, and it would be a big help for the teacher if you wanted to help out.
2007-10-23 05:29:18 · answer #4 · answered by Liza 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and up front with the mothers that being over zealous. If they do not understand, or get irate. Explain the situation to the teacher. If this doesn’t work, then move to the principal. Eventually someone will help you out because schools need all the help they can get.
2007-10-23 03:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely discuss it with the teacher....sounds like "hover" parents who want to be in control of every aspect of their children's lives. I know that's irritating....
2007-10-23 03:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by Chickenfarmer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO like I do, and just show up with cupcakes or seomthing anyway.
2007-10-23 04:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by his wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just put you name on the list , AND GO! What are they going to do? Kick you out? Fire you? Common.. DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOUR KIDS!!!!!
2007-10-23 11:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the teacher and principal we cant fix this for you
2007-10-23 03:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋