just told the gilr who i really care for that i like her i felt like an idiot but i done it.
But then after i thought she didnt she told me she used to like me as well ..yeh used to i know i was gutted.But then i said do you still have feelings for me she said i dunno im just not ready for a relationship right now which i totally respect .
I mean both of us felt the same and i dont know what to do.she isnt a player no way i know her very well. Iam just feeling a bit sad that what could have been is or might be going?
I told her im ok with her not wanting to be in a relationship iam because all good things come to those who wait right?
so anyway im wondering what can i do to reassure her that being scared is ok and im not wanting her for one thing.
And also is all lost between this situation im in?
I feel happy but sad because i care about her so much and now i cant be with her.
Thanks peeps no rude answers xxxx take care
2007-10-23 03:07:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One of my best friends and I had a crush on eachother way back when. We never told eachother until recently, of course, and never got together. We're great friends and I don't feel the same about him anymore, but it's just crazy what can (or in this case, can't) happen when there's a lack of communication. I think that instead of pouring your heart out online, you should tell this girl exactly what you've said here. You've exposed your true desires here and I think that these are things that she needs to hear.
Instead of wondering how you can tell her that you don't want her for one thing, just plainly say "I don't want you for just one thing." Instead of not wanting her to be scared, say "I don't want you to be scared." I think that honesty and straight forwardness are the best policies. There's no way to misinterperate something that's laid out in it's purest form.
This post is a fine starter for talking to this girl. Let your guard down and spill your guts. If you want her, this form of non-violent fighting for her has to happen. Trust me, from a gal that used to pine over other gals and used to never be able to muster up the courage to say something, you'll thank yourself in the end. Even if things don't work out, at least you can't beat yourself up for not trying, you know?
2007-10-23 03:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by melancholycoffee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was kind of in the same situation...
If it's meant to be, you will know.
It's right that you told her, and great that you're not being pushy.
If she used to like you, and she's just not ready for a relationship, you just gotta wait and see how things turn out. But from what I'm getting, chances are things will turn out great.
Maybe you could try telling her that you're not going for her, but she's very special to you.
Wish you the best!
luv. Mel
2007-10-23 03:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seek for the happy ever after and luxuriate in what I unquestionably have...I do especially circumstances wander down elm highway while self doubt peeks in yet then I artwork in direction of the useful and walk faraway from what introduced me to that nightmare. especially circumstances to discover the happy place you're able to decrease your losses and understand you could no longer cope with each and every thing and which you do no longer could. stay without regrets, recommendations and what ifs are ok if saved to a min. might you be blessed and stay luckily ever after.
2016-10-04 10:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by snead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to be there for her, like a friend. And if you don't mind waiting and she does like you then when the time is right I am sure you two will have a good relationship.
2007-10-23 03:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by The one who knows 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is what they say but how long no one knows... You are a good person to wait and support her decision... Is all lost no... you haven't shut down communication... as long as you keep being friends... Is it hard of course it is but you must maintain it... Who knows someone else may enter?? but what happens happens just continue to be good friends to each other... Because after all that is a foundation to a stronger relationship later...
2007-10-23 03:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by De 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her nice..
give her little things (favorite candy bar) "thinking of you.."
Little things, and being around at the right times without being pushy, will get you where you want to be...
2007-10-23 03:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's quite the predicament its going around alot it must be contagious i wish i knew what to tell you but i feel you're pain,i guess you wait and see ifs its meant to be it will you take care too
2007-10-23 03:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by emma_undoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two don't have to jump into a relationship. you can start off slow & simply hang out. if she is still afraid simply talk to her and let her know what your intentions are.
2007-10-23 03:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by ishouldhavebeenafarmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends! It seems she doen't have a crush on you! I just found my match on
2007-10-23 03:12:22 · answer #9 · answered by sammy w 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be her friend don't push her. See what happens. Good luck.
2007-10-23 03:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by holly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋