I loaned my daughter's bassinette to a family member. My daughter is 2 now and will be my last child, I can't ever have anymore.
The bassinette is the same one I used with her sister and I had planned to keep it for them to use with their dolls because it holds sentimental value to me. I loaned it to this family member because she couldn't afford a crib right away. I told her when she took it to let me know when she was done with it and I'd have my husband pick it up.
She gave it away to a co-worker. When I asked about it, she said "Oh, I didn't think you'd need it anymore since you can't have anymore kids."
Is it unreasonable of me to think that she should have asked me first before giving it away?
2007-10-23 02:56:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm not gonna ask her to pay for it or anything because she doesn't have a lot of money. I'm just a little upset that she gave it away.
2007-10-23 03:00:58 · update #1
She should not have done that....if she was close enough with the person to "loan" it out to them then she should be comfortable enough to ask for it back. If she won't do that I would ask for the borrowers number and call her myself and just explain the situation.
2007-10-23 03:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not unreasonable to think she should have asked first, especially since you already mentioned that to her in the first place. Yours is a really good example of why people should ask anyway, instead of just assuming things. Maybe she can put you in contact with the co-worker, and you can expain that you wanted it back for sentimental reasons, and see if she can give it back when she is done with it.
2007-10-23 03:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No sounds like a real *****! Of course she should have asked if it was ok to GIVE it to someone let alone loan it out.
I would tell her that once her co-worker is finished with it you want it back because it holds a lot of sentimental value to you. Say that you loaned it to her because you trusted her with something that meant a lot to you and you are very hurt that she gave something so precious away without even thinking to ask if it was ok to do so because you had made it very clear to her that you wanted it back.
2007-10-23 03:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not being unreasonable. She shouldn't have given it away without asking you. Especially if you told her when you let her use it that you wanted it back. If you know the co-worker, you might let her know that you want it back when she's done with it. I borrowed a moses basket from my sister and I knew it belonged to a friend of hers, but I gave it back to my sister when I was done with it. You might ask, the co-worker may be planning to give it back to your family member.
2007-10-23 04:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have asked you first especially since you requested it be returned. It is reasonable for her to tell the co-worker of her error and ask that when the co-worker is done with it she return it to you. I have a rule that applies here -never loan anything you want back-it rarely returns.
2007-10-23 04:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not unreasonable if you told her you wanted it back.
Why don't you ask her to ask her co-worker to let you know when she's finished with it so you can have it back. Explain, again if necessary, that it has sentimental value to you and you want it for your kids.
2007-10-23 03:54:54 · answer #6 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought this type of thing only happened to me.
I loaned a "friend" an antique bed, and then she left a message on my phone one day saying "let me know what you want me to do with that bed, or else I'm just gonna toss it out". I was very rude to her when I left her a message that said "it is common knowledge, that borrowing something means you return it when you're done with it".
Some people. I could never be that rude.
2007-10-23 03:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by The Grand Inquisitor 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a heartless thing to do, I would say to her well when your co worker is finished with it I want it back...you have to be assertive, explain to her its sentimentel...my mom has kept some of my baby stuff and she is in her 50's for the same reason.....and dont ever lend her anything again...some people just dont think
2007-10-23 04:00:49 · answer #8 · answered by cizzy81 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A course no, she should of asked you first before handing it off to someone else. Some people just don’t see value in the things others do to help make their life better. Do you know if they’ll give it back to you? Good luck!
2007-10-23 03:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by CuriousCandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes she was wrong, dont even loan her anything again. You won't get it back. Perhaps she could explain to the co worker that when she is done, you need it back. Yes, it would be akward for her, but so what, it's yours and you want it back.
2007-10-23 03:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by screw the rules 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋