my daughter(13) has this friend who is 14yrs old..very cute girl...but she's got to alway try to one up my daughter..my daughter is in the national junior honor society and has started doing her volunteer work and community service for it and now this girl (well actually i think it's more her mom) has decided that she wants to do the same things as my daughter but she is going to "do so much better" then my daughter..when my daughter was on the cross country team this girls mom made her join the team also and then the mom had a fit because the girl wanted to quit...my daughter has some really amazing goals for her life and the other girl wants to be a trophy wife and her mom keeps comparing her to my daughter and pushing the kid to do everything that my daughter is doing but even better...both my daughter and i are sick of the competitiveness from the mom and the friend...but my daughter doesn't have alot of friends so she's afraid to tell this girl that she doesn't want to be friend
2007-10-23 02:51:16 · 5 answers · asked by ♥ Infantry Wife ♥ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sounds like the problem is with the mother not the child. Think how awful life must be for this girl with such a pushy mom. I think the girls are old enough to talk about it between themselves and decide how to handle their relationship. You daughter sounds like a bright wonderful girl and she will certainly find other friends who will be willing to celebrate her achievements rather than try to one up her out of jealousy
2007-10-23 03:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by Diane M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, with friends like that, your daughter doesn't need enemies. She doesn't need to be in a relationship with that girl... it's not making her a better person, it's not making her happy, it's not encouraging her. From what you've said, your daughter is about ready to throw in the towel... let her. Don't push her to, let her do it on her own time. Tell her that she can make better friends than that other girl, that she deserves to be treated better than that. She deserves to have her own dreams, not to have someone try and step on her toes the whole way up! You attract people like yourself, so smart ambitious peple will be drawn to your daughter. It may take some time, but it WILL happen.
2007-10-23 03:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by Cassie B. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
explain to your daughter that a true friend would not act this way..but also point out that it is the mother making alot of choices for her little girl and that must make her little girl feel awful...i would sit the girl down and your daughter and explain that it is ok to be different and be good at different things .....if nothing comes of this then it will be time to end the friendship or it will esclate
2007-10-23 02:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by becca9892003 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you would be able to desire to talk up for your self. She would get injury yet no one would desire to sense this loopy, and she or he would desire to be attentive to to cease. it might desire to be confusing, my first time it become confusing and that i merely approximately did not do it yet I did and instructed her excatly what i become questioning. So merely say the priority you merely asked and tell her, yet you ought to not yell. i'd say - look i'm satisfied your my buddy yet its going to a methods. You call me too plenty and confident we are in a position to be superb friends yet we can't start up off incorrect and we are. we could merely start up as friends and that i'm specific we are going to be stable friends interior the destiny yet for now we could concentration on friends. i'm hoping I helped.
2016-11-09 06:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her to show no interest in the others achievements. The other girl will soon get bored.
2007-10-23 08:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by baz490@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋