brief description:
-in relationship for 2 years
-great sex life
-he's from a religious family
-now he wants to become religious meaning no sex before marriage
-he's mentioned this before but always gave in but now i know he's really serious.
-i love him to bits we even chatted about marriage
but with his having a lot on marriage won't be on the cards for another year maybe.
-what should i do? i know sex ain't the most important part of my relationship but it plays some part in showing how much we love one another.
-what wud u do?
2007-10-23 02:49:02 · 17 answers · asked by DaRkAnGeL 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Interesting. My daughter and her boyfriend did this. They were together and having sex for four years. A year before they got married, they decided they needed to stop having sex. They were both relgious and had been feeling guilty for quite some time about having sex outside of marriage. I'm not sure how they did it, but I have to give them both credit for sticking to their beliefs.
No one should ever have sex when they don't want to. Pushing him to be intimate when he clearly feels wrong about it is incredibly disrespectful of his needs. If he needs this, and you love him, you need to give it to him. If it takes a year to get married, well, one year in the big scheme of things is nothing.
Imagine how much better you'll get to know each other and in a whole new way. If you can get through this time, you should be able to get through anything later. Knowing that you get along well outside of a sexual relationship should only help you later. Great sex is awfully wonderful but getting along well without it is also incredible. If you get along well without sex, imagine how good the sex can be later.
If you're sure of his reasons for going without sex and they are solely related to his relgious beliefs, I'd do it.
Good luck....
2007-10-23 03:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is an important part of a relationship, but if he wants to wait to have it again till marriage, and you think you will get married, I would say, go for it! It will make your wedding night so much more special! You already know what it will be like, but you will have that anticipation from waiting that whole year or whatever, and that could be exciting. My opinion anyway. Best wishes!
2007-10-23 02:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by j c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say the same if this is important to him then you should respect his wishes.
This will also give you time to explore other areas of your relationship and will give you an insite to see what your relationship is built on.
If you can't last then you havn't lost anything as maby you weren't that suited, if you do then you know your making a good choise by marrying him.
2007-10-23 02:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by ben_m_g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was my boyfriend, with the way I feel for him now, I would respect his wishes and wait with him, no question about it. He is more than worth it.
Sex is not the only way to show someone how much you love them. To me, the little things mean so much more.
2007-10-23 03:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by Ersabette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's leading you on, no real "commited" man would reject sex, especially when he has done it already time and time again. He has found someone or is trying to find someone else. Leave him or suffer later...remember, he's using religon to blind you.
2007-10-23 02:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i knewfor certien he wa the man for me, adn we was definlatly going to get marierd I would hold on in there. You can still have fun without sex...
2007-10-23 02:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by rockchick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you love him and you are invested in this relationship you will respect his wishes. He is obviously getting ready to propose to you.
2007-10-23 02:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by mamabee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If religion isn't going to be a big part of your life, you need to be honest with him on that. In my opinion, you need to be united in religion in marriage or it's basically doomed.
2007-10-23 02:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by wigginsray 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you love him youll respect his religious beliefs. relationships are on sacrafice and if youre not willing to give your share you wont get any back ;-)
Good luck
2007-10-23 02:52:19 · answer #9 · answered by Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love this person SACRIFICE!! if you can't wait just leave. don't force somebody into doing sopmething he doesn't want to do. respect is the word.
2007-10-23 02:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by isla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋