Fiance feels like she cant get any closer to you for fear of getting hurt but you plan to stay with her forever i have told her this but she is still scared how do you get her past this fear any advice appreciated thanks
2007-10-23 02:44:13 · 9 answers · asked by JUGGALO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to prove to her that you are in it 100%! Do anything at all possible to prove this! Perhaps (if your both ready to do this) suggest having children! They can be a symbol of commitment.
2007-10-23 02:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
im gonna tell u this from my own experience i havent been in a relationship 4 now its gonna be 3yrs and now i one man that wants to marry me and other who wants to settle as well be there for me 2now heres is the thing i have told the 1st one i dont c myself getting marry and the other i havent told him yet y for fear in a relationship one thing about women is that if we have been in really bad relationships is not that we dont want to be w/someone nor have children is that we are afraid that once we open our self's up to a good man that we have been waitin for long that all the fears and the lying and cheatin will come back and that pushes more sometimes we need tough love sometimes we need a man who is understanding and if he really loves us they have Patience with us and i know that it may seem as if that she aint never gonna trust u but she will and she will open up to u u'll c
2007-10-23 10:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep telling her, then tell her again, then tell her again. There is no time limit for this situation. If you truly love her, understanding, (not necessarily agreeance), and reassurance are the only way that you're going to get past this. In time, she will accept you at your word. When that times finally comes, it will be well worth the wait, and you will have her undying devotion.
2007-10-23 09:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a fiancee, it must mean there are marriage plans eventually, so I would say that she plans on getting closer.It is hard when you have been hurt in the past.Actions speak louder than words.
2007-10-23 09:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her how much u love her and that u will never hurt her, i mean not just because one person hurt her, everyone else is going to do it, things happen for a reason, because there is always someone better for you, and you were not meant to be with that person...just explain to her and ask her o give you the chance to show her how much u love her...good luck
2007-10-23 09:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to give her time, to trust you in order for her to realize that she wont get hurt. It took me a long time before I could trust my now boyfriend, because me ex did me wrong and it just really hurt me, so I took time and my boyfriend understood so, just be there for her and she will trust you.
2007-10-23 11:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
slowly build trust.
planning to stay together does not mean it will happen.
look at all the divorced people.
just go slow don't try to push her.
as time goes on she will learn you are safe and she can trust you
2007-10-23 09:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you suppose her fear and misgivings have something to do with your obvious love of ICP... your self professed JUGGALO status?
2007-10-24 10:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by drape_sylvan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give it time...
2007-10-23 09:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by Freakalicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋