Are kids harder to discipline nowadays because of parenting styles or restrictive laws favouring the young???

Answer 1

From what we've seen it appears to be harder to discipline kids nowadays but it is, actually, just the same as it used to be. The people who are finding it harder are the ones who used smacking as the main or only form of discipline in their family. The basics are just the same...clear expectations that are age relevant, clear boundaries and a good reward system are really all that's needed. We agree that the law favours the young in ways that it didn't used to but if parents started with their offspring when they are little it is a lot easier than trying to implement stricter discipline when the kids are older. With the teenage young people it can oftentimes be peer pressure that introduces them to smoking, drinking and drugs but the biggest problem for our young people today is that Councils are quick to slap ASBO's onto them but aren't prepared to build facilities for them. There is nothing for the young teens in our area and there is a huge problem with under-age drinking. The Council have recently refused a Community Centre that would cater for all age groups so if there are more problems in the future with gangs, drinking etc the Council have only themselves to blame.

Answer 2

Yes the restrictive laws does make it harder to dicipline kids.

Now I'm not talking about beating a child to within an inch of it's life, but if dicipline is installed and sometimes it does require a child to be smacked (either on the hands, bottom or legs) then so be it. But now because of our liberal laws, health and safety laws, and other do-gooder atrocities no matter how much we try to dicipline kids now through reasonable methods we have created a generation of diciplineless, little b'stards with no respect or consideration for people or property.

The ironic thing is because the parents have had their parenting styles restricted by the Police and the political left (generally those who can't or won't have kids) we cannot fully dicipline our children, so when the kids cause bother and act anti-social, whose to blame? ah yes, the parents. The very people who want to dicipline their child but face criminal proceedings and a visit from Social Services if they do.

Answer 3

I believe its parenting styles more than laws favoring children. Parents have become more permissive, the focus on discipline is less and the time spent with children on a day-to-day basis has diminished. Structure and discipline (not necessarily spanking - although there may be occasions where that is necessary) are needed when a child is very young; this will help make things a bit easier when the child gets older and will instill in them a respect for authority.

Answer 4

Its hard to judge this one. I think it is down to the Parents making sure that when they set restrictions on their kids behaviour then they stick to that decision.

Too many times I see kids whinning on and their Parents eventually give in.....then the kids win and also realise how to manipulate each Parent.

I understand that teachers have to be careful but what is the use of them dishing out disclipline when a Parent comes running into the school to complain about the punishement.

Its a mixture of careful and fair discipline plus reward system for good behaviour. Its not easy I know but my kids have grown up and when the boys were little a quick smack on the backside was my answer and I never got any backchat.
There all grown men now and they respect me for it, also I use to use a deep voice when shouting at them and this made them jump and even now I still do it, (for a laugh).
I think that you just need to set you goals and dont move the goalposts...or the little darlings will take over.
I dont think it is harder to discipline nowadays I just think that kids seem to be able to see your weak spots, and never be afraid to say NO to them.

Answer 5

Parents no longer disipline there children. There are to many so called experts telling you dont do this dont do that as it will have bad repocussions. Children need to learn from an early age that if they do the wrong thing there are concequences. this can be done in a number of ways but it needs to be lernt. Respect comes from the home not the Law... If your child is taught well at home chances are they will do the right thing in society. there will always be the occasional stray child that over rebels this is to be expected but nothing compared to the way they are brought up today. I have 2 children and people are always commenting on how well behaved they are. good luck with your question

Answer 6

I don't think kids are harder to discipline, I think parents are more lax for some reason or another. I spank my children when they get out of hand. There is a huge difference between spanking and abusing. I don't care what any law says as long as my children live with me, they will abilde by my rules if not, there are consequences. I think parents buy into that whole don't beat your kids mess and let their child run all over them because they are afraid of what others might say to them.

Answer 7

It's a bit of both really.

People in authority are not allowed to properly discipline kids. so they fail to get any respect for authority. This is not helped by bad parenting. Take a recent example;

I was picking my children up from thier primary school and overheard a child saying to his mother that he would be given lunchtime detention if he failed to hand in his homework the next day. The mother said to him "Just ignore [the teacher] he's a w%nker".

This is a primary school kid - what chance does he have with parents like that

Answer 8

I think it's a mixture of both. Today's parents are the product of their childhood when liberality started. This may be a chicken and egg situation. Ultimately the answer is in teh hands of the parents. Starting ideas of right and wrong at an early age and teaching children to do the right thing (rather than what everyone else is doing) seems to me to be the only answer.

Answer 9

kids are harder to discipline because the meaning of the word "discipline" changed from "helping" to "controlling".
authority figures don't care about helping the child learn lessons anymore. instead they try to force obedience.

children aren't stupid. even dogs and cats can understand the difference. one way, children react positively. the other way, children become afraid.
there's no possible way you could "discipline" someone if your authority loses it's value, and the fastest way to lose value as an authority is to make people afraid of you.

you need to be disciplined. learn respect for others.
learn respect for children.

Answer 10

Yes. most definitely. Children have more rights than every before. Some children will use these rights to abuse their parents and hold things against them.

Parents are so scared now to discipline their children for fear of repercussions.