I can;t imagine him not being in my life, yet it was real easy for him to get id of me as if I had no feelings, no say so, no opportunity to be the mirror to his faults as well that caused the demise of our affair
2007-10-23 02:32:37 · 8 answers · asked by barbara b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This.... isn't the typical question I tend to answer, but I can comment on this. It sounds like you're finding ways to make the man who left you look guilty for youself, and that may be why it's hard. Often men leave women for their own insecurities, and other times when they meet someone else.
I don't see why you expected him to "consider your feelings" when deciding whether to leave. Naturally, he must've known it wouldn't be easy on you, but if he was unhappy with you, isn't it better than going on ignoring his feelings?
I'd like to hear more, though, if that's ok.
2007-10-23 02:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by kigel1617 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe you me, we all go through it. We think we cannot live without our lover, but that is quite untrue. We are just individuals and our lives should not be dictated by others. All things happen for a good reason even though it might not be apparent at first. After some time, you will find other more interesting people in your life, but go on enjoying things you want to enjoy, don't look for his replacement. it will just happen naturally and you will see why it was important for him to leave you. It is very hard to break up in a very friendly way, though it can happen.
2007-10-23 02:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to get over a relationship at first, especially if he was the one who broke up with you. I dated someone for nearly five years before he pushed me out of my life, and it left me feeling hurt, betrayed, used, cynical, doubtful, and distrusting.
At first I could not believe that he was out of my life for good-- I was in complete denial to the fact that he had rejected me. I also couldn't believe I could ever love somebody again because I loved him so dearly. He was my best friend and I couldn't imagine my life without him.
It took a lot of work to get to the point where I could trust someone again. I kept a good attitude, though. The first thing I did was I got involved with a singles group at my church. I attended lots of fun and enriching activities, I got to meet a lot of new people, and I even began to date here and there to meet different guys. I also began taking up old and new hobbies so I could feel better about myself and build up my self-esteem. I kept busy, I stayed positive, and I made myself a better person.
Stay optimistic! Make new friends and stay busy. Discover hidden talents and do things that will help you feel better about yourself. Don't dwell on the negative things. Learn from your mistakes and move on. There's something better for you out there--- I'm sure of it!
2007-10-23 03:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by Laughing_Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to hurt for a while as it does for all of us when someone we love moves on. It will get better with time but the best thing to do is remember that if you love something let it go if its meant to be it will return. In his case he better hope its not too late because you should and will find someone else who is better for you anyway. Life is funny that way.
Good Luck and let me know how it gos.
2007-10-23 02:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by BILL 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its gonna hurt for a while. but you just got to occupy your time. do something else that you like. try not to think of him all the time. when you do keep it short. just hang out with alot of your friends or family and stuff. just do other things. he'll probably realize what good thing he lost. some guys are just that way. they like to act "..." idk... but just get on with things you like to do.
oh and dont eat chocolate!!
2007-10-23 02:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by MiSZ. lUCkiCHARM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eat chocolate.
2007-10-23 02:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by Elainea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to take time to get over him. It will get better
2007-10-23 02:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by Backhoe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live well and boldly.
2007-10-23 02:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by Chipmaker Authentic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋