Yesterday my son (age 9) had an Old Navy credit card with a lady's name on it. I asked him where he got it and he said that Kyle gave two to Steven so Steven gave one to him. That Kyle had more of them and he was giving them to his friends.
I explained to him that it was a real credit card and that someone probably stole them. I told him that if he ever got caught with stolen credit cards he could be in trouble with the law. I told him to never take anything like this from a friend again.
It was 9pm, but I was worried that Kyle's parents (or Grandmother) didn't know what was going on, so I went to their house. The Grandmother answered the door. I asked her if she knew the lady owning the card - no, but she knows a kid with that last name. I told her that Aaron had the card and said that Kyle had more. I said, "I thought you might want to know so you can explain to him that he could get in trouble if they are stollen cards".
The mother in the background yells
2007-10-23 01:34:41 · 19 answers · asked by zaniest1 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
So, the mother in the background yells "get a grip" and the grandmother says "I'm trying to get a grip". I asked her what that meant (didn't want to assume anything). She said "you guess... Someone shows up at your door and accuses your kid of stealing..." I cut her off and explained that I was not accusing Kyle of stealing. Only trying to inform them so they can explain it to him. The mother started yelling in the background again and the grandmother started yelling at her to be quiet. I turned around and said "Next time I'll just call the f*c*in* cops" (which I know I was wrong for, I was just upset. The mother yelled that she would shove something up my "bottom".
Was I wrong for telling them? What would you have done?
2007-10-23 01:38:14 · update #1
BTW... I did call them first. They didn't answer. I know they don't answer MOST OF THE TIME, that's why I went over.
2007-10-23 01:50:44 · update #2
I just called the school and sure enough they tracked the lady on the cards down. I gave the school my number and they are going to call her and have her call me.
I was worried all night (this was actually one of my "friends". I feel better - thanks for the comments.
2007-10-23 01:54:12 · update #3
I applaud what you did!
2007-10-23 03:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by Ms.Know It All 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were certainly right in informing the parents what was going on. Obviously, this mother doesn't WANT to know when her child is being 'illegal'. A lot of people are like that, unfortuneately. It is great that you did what it took to let the lady whose name is on the cards know that the child had them, too! That was the best part of what you did. You did nothing wrong! You did the best possible things you could do, and I praise you for taking the time, effort, and responsibility to do so. I know that if my child had any such item, I would want to know it, immediately! Remember, all parents were not cut out to be parents. Many simply want to smoothly go through life, without any problems being brought to their attention. If my concern about this child's parents is correct, the mother would have been using the cards, soon! Seriously, that is what would have happened. YOU are the good guy, here...........so, please, pat yourself on the back, smile, feel good about what you did. If this child should show up with anything like this, again.............DO call the police. The mother has shown her colors, she isn't going to help or to take these things from the child. So, next time, and there probably WILL be more problems with this child, just DO call the police and let them know that THIS happened, and whatever it is that is happening at the next time. I appreciate your caring so much for the child, and for the person whose name was ON those cards! I'm proud of you.
2007-10-23 12:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by laurel g 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. I can see a mother beign defensive when being approached by a sticky situation like this, but then it is time to get the son in the room and have a little talk and see what he says, instead of accusing you of calling him a theif. You are a concerned mom, and it is obvious you are a good mom. You tried your best. Next time a situation with Kyle comes up that is serious as this, call the cops. If it comes up with a different child, I would try handeling it just as you did this time. Not all parents are $#% like Kyles. :-)
2007-10-23 08:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by Sara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definately would've called the parents first. And honestly, after receiving the type of reaction you did, I would call the cops and explain what happened. There is just something odd with how the parents handled the situation. If someone came to my door in the same situation, I probably wouldn't call my kid out in front of everyone, but I would definately thank the person, ask for details on how she found the card, etc., and then talk to my child. This is a serious matter, and if the parents aren't willing to admit that maybe their son stole something, then I wouldn't be letting my child play with their child anymore.
2007-10-23 08:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jen M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you and standing your ground!! I would not let my child spend any more time with that kid. You did the right thing in going to that parents house and shedding some light in their eyes. It also sent a message to your son that you are not going to tolerate this behavior. Next time you have a run in with this family just simply call the police. You totally did the right thing. If you are feeling bold you may want to find out where the card holder lives and return it. That person may even know kyle. I'm sure that they won't be having any sleep overs any time soon with him.
2007-10-23 08:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by Messy Jessy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. I would have done the same thing, except if they treated me like that I would have stood right there and called the law. They need to be contacted immediately. You don't want any of this to backfire on your son. This kid is going to ruin someones credit, or his mother will for that matter, she probably has something to do with it by the way she acted. It's obvious where this child gets his "family values" from.
2007-10-23 08:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by peyton31602 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you were wrong at all! I am a mother of 4. I would have done the same thing. You were just trying to let the kids parents to be aware! Next time though you will know that you cant go to the kids parents and youll have to find another way to go about it.
2007-10-23 08:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by B&M_2005 M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have the parent own up to the fact she and her kid are wrong. I feel sorry for the grandmother. Sounds like the daughter is a name I can not say. Call the cops. It wasn't taken seriously so now let it be serious.
2007-10-23 09:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by left_sock_ missing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think I'd call the woman on the credit card, adn /or the police. That credit card was stolen - and I'll bet it was either the kid or the MOM.
I wouldn't have Kyle over unless my valuables were locked up tight.
2007-10-23 08:51:49 · answer #9 · answered by DaisyCake 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow talk about overreacting on their part!
If they usually aren't so brash, I'd put it down to a long hard day and a really p*ssy mood on their part. You did your job, you explained it to your child and leave it at that. If the other parents don't give a crap it's not your problem any longer.
To answer your question, I would have phoned but that's no guarantee the lady would have been any nicer.
2007-10-23 08:48:13 · answer #10 · answered by Lyn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did exactly the right thing. However their reaction makes me think that as most 9 year-olds are too young to steal credit cards, there's only one place the cards could have come from.
2007-10-23 08:43:54 · answer #11 · answered by Blink 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋