I am going to be a bridesmaid in a wedding, is it appropriate to wear jewelry and such that was not apart of the outfit the bride picked out? I want to be sure it's ok before I ask the bride...
Thanks
2007-10-23 01:14:34 · 13 answers · asked by marm212 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Actually the wedding is a year from now and all the details have not been worked out
I'm only asking because I have a necklace that matches the dress I'm wearing perfectly, I'm not fighting with her over it or anything like that... just going to ask her if it's ok, if not, no big deal
2007-10-23 01:38:34 · update #1
If she hasnt mentioned anything to you about jewelry, I'd say dont worry about it.
Either she doesnt want any jewelry (so that no one stands out because each persons jewelry is different)... or maybe she has "plans"
I know many brides buy the jewelry for the bridesmaids as part of their gift (I did)... which might be why she hasnt specified any jewelry for you to wear... I bought the jewelry and gave it to the girls the night before the wedding along with their other gifts
If you really are worried about it, go ahead and ask her... then if you do end up getting jewelry as a gift, well, then you just wear that instead of what you were originally going to wear
Good luck!
2007-10-23 01:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't afford it, then simply tell her you can't be a bridesmaid. When you said yes to her when she asked, you accepted the costs that come along with it. Most of the time, the bridesmaids are expected to cover their own costs for hair, dress, shoes and other expenses. Sometimes if the bride has it in her budget, she will offer to pay for something like jewelry or hair and nails, but not if she can't afford it. The bridesmaids also traditionally pay for the bridal shower expenses. I don't think she is asking any more than any other bride. To answer your question, it is fair for you to be expected to cover all costs that you mentioned if you want to be a bridesmaid. Being a bridesmaid is actually quite a job - it's not just to be a guest of honour at the wedding as some people think.
2016-04-09 23:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it all depends on the bride, to be honest with you. It sounds like you've got some time to get it all ironed out, but the bride will make the decision.
It's actually pretty common for the bride to give her bridesmaids jewelry as a gift for being in the wedding, and traditionally that jewelry is worn with the dress. Some brides don't, however, and their bridesmaids' accessories aren't really that important to her.
As other answerers have said, your best bet is to ask the bride.
2007-10-23 02:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most brides give a necklace or earrings as the bridesmaid gift. If she doesn't then you can wear what you want as long as it isn't big and flashy. Something small and dainty is best. The point is not to stand out from the other bridesmaids.
2007-10-23 02:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the time jewelry is given by the bride to the bridesmaid as a gift and so that everyone matches.. is everyone in the same exact dress? if so that prob means she wants everyone to look the same.. i wouldnt ask the bride that.. she might feel obligated to say yes.. and also you might be forcing her to tell you that she is giving you jewelry as a gift which is supposed to be a surprise.. or since its so early, she might not know what she is going to do yet, and say yes to you but then regret it later when she would like to do something else.. my opinion is to let the bride tell you what she wants.. i kinda think thats imposing a little... let her run the show ya know
2007-10-23 02:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by Tiff Tiff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a well planned wedding and the bride has any class, she will want all her bridesmaids to look the same and will pick out the jewelry she wants you to wear or ask that you go shopping with her so you will all agree on the same accessories. She might pay for it as a gift, or make it a part of the dress accessories to be worn as your commitment to the bride. That is what a bridesmaid is "a maid to assist the bride" in making sure that everything will go well for "her" on HER wedding day.
2007-10-23 01:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Sometimes the bride will give a necklace, bracelet or earrings as her gift to you... If there's something you want to wear in addition to that, you should be allowed to... just ask her what type of jewelry she'd like you to wear so you have a chance to work it out ahead of time and there's no confusion.
2007-10-23 01:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by LoLo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a case by case situation. For example, if the bride is a Jehovah's Witness she would be quite offended and/or feel it is out of place if you wear a chain around your neck with Christ on it. Then again, if she was a JW and you were not she probably wouldn't have you as a bridesmaid at her wedding. No way of telling for sure if she is going to be offended by just you asking her if it is okay to wear jewelry or not. If you just want to be safe all around then look at it this way : If you don't understand it get rid of it.
2007-10-23 01:27:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's always appropriate to ask the bride what kind of accessories she would like for her bridesmaids to wear.
And please don't argue with her over a pair of earrings etc. For heaven's sake, if she has picked out the accessories, shoes, jewelry - whatever, do as she asks. It's only one afternoon of your entire life. Surely you can be that generous and unselfish to a dear friend.
2007-10-23 01:36:02 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I gave the girls earrings, but told them they can wear whatever else they wanted as long as it looked nice with the dress. Most of them wore bracelets that they had found. I don't think the bride would mind if you just ask her.
2007-10-23 02:01:52 · answer #10 · answered by vaya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋