muslims: please help! can you answer this ques.?

Question

salaam,

hi everyone, got another question. i have made the decision to switch to islam. the only thing is, how in the world do i tell my mom?!!! she's christian, and doesn't believe in islam.yester day she was like"why are you reading the quaran?, you haven't even read the bible yet!do you want to be muslim now?" i could have said yes right then and there, but i had friends in the car, and did not feel like getting into a argument and she seemed a little irritated anyway. It's true i havent' read the WHOLE bible yet though, i heart keeps leading me back to the quaran. not sure how my mom would feel about it though, she said before that she didn't believe in a religion that worshipped a man (muhammed)., i kno he's a prophet and we don't worship him, that would be shirk. i think i may need a way to possibly influence her that islam is wat i believe to be the true religion, and if she begs to differ, at least let me be wat i am. its not like i worshipping shaytaan.

i mean, i'm not sure exactly how she feels, she could actually be ok with it, buy i don't know, i think she may try to pull me back to christianity. buy the thing is this is wat i believe and i'm sick of hiding everything. and lying. like when i do salaat, i say i was in the bathroom, if someone is in the bathroom for that long, five times a day, something is wrong!lol, but yes, really need your help, any ideas?


PEOPLE PLEASE DON'T BE RUDE, I'M HAVING A HARD ENOUGH TIME RIGHT NOW! IF YOUR GONNA BE RUDE DON'T ANSWER, IF YOU STILL WANT TO ANSWER, DON'T BE RUDE..........................................................................................YOU WILL BE REPORTED MUSLIMS AND CHRISTIANS ALIKE!

YA KNOW, YOU PEOPLE KILL ME. I ASKED FOR A ANSWER TO A QUESTION. NOT BASHING ON WHAT I BELIEVE, IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE,FINE SUCKS TO BE YOU.JUST LIKE IF I DON'T BELIVE WHAT YOU BELIEVE, SUCKS TO BE ME. RELIGION IS FAITH AND WHAT WE BELIVE SO DON'T GO AROUND BASHING ME FOR WHAT I BELIVE.
SECOND, JUST BECAUSE OF TERROISM, UR ALL OF SUDDEN SAYING THAT ISLAM IS VIOLENT, ARE YOU CRAZY? JUST ABOUT EVERY MAJOR RELIGIOUS GROUP IN THE WORLD HAS HAD A VIOLENT ACT BEFORE, ONE THAT PEOPLE REMEMBER. I DON'T GET YOU PEOPLE! PICK UP THE QUARAN AND READ THE WHOLE THING, YOU WOULD LIKE THE MESSAGE.

TO THE CHICK THATS A FORMER MUSLIM, KUDOS FOR U. I COULD HAVE DONE WITHOUT YOUR COMMENT. WITH YOU HAVING BEEN A MUSLIM IN THE PAST, YOU SHOULD HAVE GREATLY UNSTERSTOOD MY QUESTION, OR JUST ANSWER IT.


BELIEVE IT OR NOT, THERE ARE WAYS TO ANSWER A QUESTION WITH OUT BEING RUDE ABOUT IT!

Thanks to all that answered! good and bad alike.

i have one more comment though......
what some of you guys are not realizing is, you're trying to change me, i'm not asking you to change me or my beliefs, i asking you to give me some ideas on how to tell my mom i'm converting. another thing is islam is a religion, not a country, so can you guys please stop acting as if all something billion of muslims are bad. and just because i want to convert to islam,doesn't mean i'm going to move to a country that downs women. i'll be right here in america. and sometimes you guys judge to fast, to you, it's a country enforcing women to do things they don't want to do, to us it's a state of modesty.just like outsiders may look at americans as fat lazy pigs, buy we look at ourselves as successful and rich. please think about wat ur saying, and how much hurt and depression a person can feel from just one answer.

Answer 1

if allah decided to pull u to lights, then u will be helped by allah, ur question was about ur mom and some people pulled it on trying u to pull u back from right path,if u read qur'an u must know that u will find that type of people in ur way, i want to tell u some things about ur question.
1: make ur self strong on what u want
2: dont leave the right path on any cost
3: islam will teach u to respect ur self and avoid those things are not good for u, like drugs,
4: try to follow islam strictly.that will be a surprise for ur mom to find changes in you, and the changes islam will make will be appriciated by ur mom
5: nicely tell her the truths about islam, and try to tell her about nagetive and fake knowlade about islam spreaded by media
6:as a muslim,u have responcbilities to be a good muslim,
7: ur mom will be respectable for u in any case,never be rude to her,
8: islam will teach u repect ur mom more then any religion,she must know that the positive changes are in u just because of islam
9: how she or anyone can have a good opinion about islam without right knowladge about islam
10:so give her that knowladge from quran

Answer 2

As you can see the devil has entered in the minds of most of these people who answered your question in a rudely fashion. So much to say about their beliefs. I am so sad that you have to hide this from your mom. You can imagine how the prophet Mohammed had to do this for years and at the same time preach to his followers in secret. Certainly not for a lost cause. The day will come when you will be able to practice your beliefs freely. In my opinion your mom must understand that Islam IS a peaceful religion. It teaches what most parents would die to get out from their kids. No alcohol, no drugs, no gambling, no sex before marriage and much much more. I think she will be proud of you once she fully understands what Islam is all about. I also would hope that your mom tries to unplug herself from the negative media that has given Islam a wrong interpretation. That itself is a leading factor for your mom not to accept you becoming a Moslem. I would sit with my mom alone in a calm environment and slowly start to introduce some of your important concepts in Islam, without actually first mentioning Islam, then after all the concepts have been explained to her tell her exactly that you wish to be a Moslem for those reasons. Once she realizes that you have done your research she most certainly would understand. I ask God to give you the strength to stay on the right path. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Based on what I have read. You are under 18, and live in your mothers home. So with your mother being a Christan, and being against Islam I would respect her wishes for right now. Not to say that this isn't the path. But it is still your mother. Maybe if you read her bible, and asked questions then tell her you would like to convert to Islam. At least then she might feel that you are making an educated decision. Think of it like a history lesson.
However while living in her home I don't think there ever be an easy way to tell.

Answer 4

You are a very brave person and deserve a lot of respect. After all, how many of us grow up to question the belief we were born into and then search for truth! It takes a brave and honest person to do that.

It would have helped to know your age as it would have determined if you are also dependent on your parents. I think the main thing for you to make you mom understand in any case is that your converting to Islam does not change your relationship with her. If anything, it strenghtens it as Islam puts much emphasis on being good with parents even when they are not Muslims. Also, I think, if she is not a staunch Christian she would not object much to your conversion as religion does not play a very important role in modern Western life any more.

I recommend you to read a book by an American convert Jeffrey Lang. The book is called Struggling to Surrender. It is quite pertinent to converts in Western societies and will serve as a good guidance for you in your future in Islam.

I am also forwarding you a link to an exchange of letters between an American Jew woman in 60s-70s with a Muslim scholar and her subsequent conversion and migration. You might also relate to some of her thoughts and ideas.

http://www.islamunveiled.org/eng/ebooks/maryamj/maryamj.htm

Trust in Allah, remain steadfast and inshallah your problems will be solved.

Answer 5

My family has mixed views on my journey to Islam, too. Growing up, my mom was Lutheran and my dad was Catholic. She joined the Catholic church later in life. So, my mom understands more than others in my family - and is very supportive. My children are Greek Orthodox. They are both very opposed - but they do realize that it is my spiritual journey - not theirs. It did take a while to make them see that though. Maybe your mom will surprise you. Maybe she just needs to be shown that Islam is something very beautiful. There is a lot of literature available online that explains the basic beliefs. Maybe she would read it when she learns how much Islam means to you. But if not, you always hold your beliefs within you. No one can take those away. And when you are grown and on your own you can follow your heart openly. Blessings....

Answer 6

Hi :)
I've been in a similar situation as you, just maybe not as major as choosing a religion. To be honest, you've only got one choice, wich is to tell her. You can either prolong your hiding your beliefs and then tell her anyway, or you can tell her and finally find out what she thinks. When i had to tell my family what i wanted to do, the only person i could talk to was my mother, and yet my family still treated me like an outcast. I would worry for days about whether i should have just listened to them and drop whatever i wanted. Eventually, i realised that i had to be my own person, no matter what anyone else said or thought, and that they'd have to accept my decision sooner or later, because they couldn't control what i believed in, or what i did. Tell your mother. It's no use waiting around, it'll only make you worry more. And good luck ;)

Answer 7

Muslims can only donate to muslims (mainly for jihad of course). It makes me laugh that Djinn has been thumbed down - the truth hurts. Most soup kitchens for all are at Churches not mosques.

Answer 8

Think positive sister, embrace Islam and when you do, do it with all of your heart, mind and body....don't always pray in the toilet, pray in the open if you can, and remember you can, you must, you will....I returned to Islam and started praying my "Five" after having been outside of the deen for part of my youth. May Allah give all Muslims a way to pray our "Five" if we can, to tell you the truth I have moved slackerly a bit recently, anyway, but truly... "You exalt whom You like and abase whom You like"....Allah grants honour to whomsoever He wills and abases whomsoever He wills as The Holy Quran 3:26 says.

Answer 9

Personally just doing a bit of research into Islam's origins was enough to completely turn me off i.e. claiming that the rock and Mecca were holy places when Mecca was founded 300 years after Christ and no body had attached any significance to the rock until Mohamed. Then there is the fact that Christianity plainly says that it is complete and not to be added to. Islam says that Jesus was a prophet which means that they think Jesus as a prophet lied - not the most theologically sound thinking.

Then there is the treatment of women in the Muslim world, even foreign women can not drive and in some places are expected to cover up - I had a friend who was visiting and her sleeves were too short so they spray painted her wrists. Any religion that is so closed minded about their morals that they need to make them into public laws is extremely dangerous to its population.

Answer 10

Islam is true religion from God, religion of all prophet including Jesus. Read Quran and if you need more guidance send me your email so that I can send you some books as proof for the truthfulness of Islam from bible and other old books. Don't leave Islam but alway respect your mother. Respect her in everything except leaving Islam.