2007-10-23 00:35:08 · 17 answers · asked by puji 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
That's completely up to the people involved! There are lots of good reasons (other than religion, although thats valid too) to wait until marriage for sex. Protection from STDs and STIs, not having to find yourself as a single parent, and not having to deal with the extra complexities of sex in a still-developing relationship are all excellent reasons. Sometimes people also just aren't ready or want to save that part of themselves for the person they are going to marry as a special, one-of-a-kind thing.
Alternatively, the primary reason to have sex outside of marriage is cause it feels good! You also dont want to find yourself getting married primarily to have sex rather than because you truly have found the person you should marry.
Sex can be everything from completely impersonal, with little or no emotional connection, to something truly intense that really is the culmination of two people who deeply love and care for one another. Physically, it can feel great either way. Emotionally, sure, it's better when there is a deeper, lasting connection, because there is trust, understanding, patience, and other things that help make sex better also.
In general, I think the safest, healthiest decision for a person to make is to engage in sex when they are in a committed relationship, whether it's marriage or not. Less meaningful sex is a lot of fun and I personally dont find it morally reprehensible, but its a lot of risk and extra burden to put on yourselves when you consider the possible consequences and do a cost-benefit analysis.
If the two of you are committed to each other and to the relationship, and youre both willing to discuss and accept the consequences (pregnancy, etc.), then it just comes down to the two of you deciding if you are really willing to go that next step. It's a big step and shouldn't be rushed, but obviously can be wonderful when made at the right time.
2007-10-23 01:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by lutmerjm 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
That is a question that only you and the other person can answer. Society sees nothing wrong with sex before marriage, however, religion plays a big part in your choice as well (provided you follow any one in particular).
You obviously love eachother to even consider it (otherwise it is not fulfilling at all). Waiting until marriage can be just as fullfilling.. and perhaps more, then doing it now. Be mature, safe and responsible above all. Let your heart and beliefs be your guide!
2007-10-23 04:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like everyone has said, it's YOUR decision. We can't tell you what to do. You write "should" you engage in sex before marriage....I would have to say no. You shouldn't...BUT that's what I believe. I don't believe in sex before marriage. I knew I was going to marry my husband 3 yrs before we were married but we BOTH waited and our wedding night was beautiful. It's something to think about but in the end it's your choice for your reasons.
2007-10-23 02:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jellybean had her little bean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Sex before marriage is wrong. Besides, if you're asking this question then that's a good indicator that you're not ready for sex right now and there's something on your mind. In other words, you want to have sex but probably feel you should wait.
2007-10-23 02:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by Rockit 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
That depends on the religious beliefs of both of you and how you both feel about it.
For me my second wife was very devout and refused and it was very special on our wedding day, but that really depends on how you two feel and think.
BB
2007-10-23 02:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that question.
If you are alreay engaged, and have never had sex.
Why now? why not wait a few morw months...
2007-10-23 01:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by smsm223 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone who said that it's up to you, is right. However, I never buy a car without taking it for a test drive.
2007-10-23 16:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by WorldTraveler 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one should answer that question except for yourself. It is your choice. You should follow your beliefs and what feels right to you. If you are not ready then no, but if your for it, do it!
2007-10-23 00:55:32 · answer #8 · answered by ttc #2 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is a decision that you should be talking about with your partner, not asking other people, some of which you don't even know, to decide for you. ;)
2007-10-23 01:12:11 · answer #9 · answered by Helen 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
One should not.
2007-10-26 17:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by driverleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋