my bf an i have been dating for 9 months now..we have broken up twice in those nine months only for about a week each time...he used to be happy to talk to me and happy when we'd see each other, now he hates seeing me....it's almost like one day his whole personality jsut turned uspide down, he used to be lovign and caring and the sweetest guy int he entire world...i can barely tlak to him , i tried on the phone (shouldnt it be in person?) but he wont listen to me, he either hangs up or tells me to shut up and listen to him....i wanna break up with him, but i dont know how, im afraid to, and he always makes me change my mind when we go to school the next day..ohh..and we cant forget his little friend ashley..she's this freshman that likes him and everyday right in front of me she wants a hug, every day he gives her one when i can barely get one from him no matter how hard i try to get him to even hug me...but then he alwasy flirts with me and is himself when he's not in this trance...
2007-10-23 00:14:15 · 14 answers · asked by Peace, Love, Hope ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him straight!! Tell him that you need to speak to him and even set a date or whenever to make sure he knows that! He sounds a bit of a player, and you defently need to break up with him!!!
2007-10-23 00:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by Lauz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want the bottom line answer from an old guy who's been around the block a couple of times?
Bottom line!
He thinks he owns you. My guess is he probably does but only you can answer that.
In a nutshell, you're not a challange anymore.
As you pointed out, when he snaps his finger (flirts with you) you have little or no ability to think for yourself.
Where's the challenge?
Now Ashley, she's something new and a challenge.
Like the old song says,
"There must be 50 ways to leave your lover."
Don't worry about it.
Develop yourself, on your own.
When he realizes you won't come when he whistles he'll come back to you.
That is, if he wants to.
If he doesn't, than why worry about it anyway?
2007-10-23 07:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by hoovarted 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Night Fairy,
This Guy is a little Confused and if you ask me he doesnt deserve you, he is very harsh, rude and infact is ready to hug another girl right in front of you thats is pathetic , on the other hand you are gentle, kind and cute and you have already broken the relationship twice with him that doesnt sound good too..
Please tell him right on his face that everything is over and move on
Remeber that special somebody for you is right around the corner ..just hold on
Cheers
2007-10-23 07:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by Prince 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I call as i hear it, you have been played girl friend he use you like a two dollar street girl, I'll bet that he got your cell number you house number and a pager if you have one. And every time he bored means that they other sugar toy he dippen and that's what i see that he is dippin that little trash hound, and right in front of you wow. I guess things never really change, its been 46 yrs on this walk and i ve see the same lame thing people put themselves into danger wow. my advice dump him don't talk to him and find someone who you know is a Friend and not just a player; but then again I'll bet that is the one thing you like but then again i could be wrong who knows you tell me do you like being used and abused.?
2007-10-23 07:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by steven c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to deal with the situation (in my opinion. . . .of course) is to be honest with him but you have to prepare for it. you first have to examine your feelings towards him and how you feel about the situation. once you have settled on that, you have to muster the courage finally resolve the entire thing in the most proper way - with him. to do that, you have to get his undivided attention. i suggest you go some place where there is no distraction but dont give him a hint that it will be for a serious talk. when you do get his attention, tell him in a calm manner how you feel about him and the whole relationship. make sure he gets the idea that the converstation is not one of those that he could just put off and forget about and that it will be decisive of what's gonna happen afterwards. after things are said, make sure you don't change your mind and to be able to do that, make sure you'll only say things when you are certain that you will no longer change your mind after saying it. god bless you.
2007-10-23 07:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by yashkigani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds emotionally unstable. if he doesn't respect u or treat u lyk u should be treated, then he is not a good bf. he does not sound committed. he also sounds two-faced. you don't want these kind of guys around u. it makes things hard. trust me. i've been there. u should break-up with him. maybe it will make him see that he needs you and maybe it will knock some sense into him. remember, u should never be treated like something less than who u r. i say that u should tell him that "it's over". but then again, it is your choice. it is your life and only you can choose how this is going to turn out for yourself.
2007-10-23 07:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by kj<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An unstable relationship like this is not good.
Even if you are able to prolong it after this predicament of yours, seems to me this is not a "long lasting relationship"
I know that relationships aren't always happy sunshine, but when it's your partner whose making you miserable himself, there's no point in having the relationship.
If you feel you should end it, then by all means do so.
and if have to put in more effort in not giving in to him that easily. So in this "cool-off" stage, both of you can sort out your emotions.
2007-10-23 07:53:59 · answer #7 · answered by mystified 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
blatent asshole, not that hes not a nice guy, but ive been in that stage, all he wants is some fun and flirtyness, and im guessing your young, i understand you love him but he wants fun, and not a marrage.
your best bet is to wait for HIM to contact YOU. give it a few days and your fone will ring as us males dont like the feeling the gf mite be not interested or worse interested in someone else now
:D basic advice, stop calling him, let him come to you, if he does, good job, if he doesnt, dump, just not worth it, will hurt for a while, but someone else will come, believe it.
2007-10-23 07:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by jonny h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Snap the trance. Think about this. Would you be ready to spend the rest of your life with this man? Even if that is not what you are looking for, would you? People like this DO NOT CHANGE! Even if they say they will, they won't. I lived in this type of relationship for 10 years, I stayed married. RUN!
He is playing with you. How often do your girlfriends hang up on you, or tell you to shut up? How often do your girlfriends ignore you and just talk to your other friends while you are standing right there? How often do they stop talking to you for a week at a time? My guess that they don't, so why would you put up with that from a man you would not spend the rest of your life with?
Little Ashley knows she can play him and can do so in front of you. She is basically telling you that she can do what she wants with your man and you cannot stop her.
Care about yourself! Behavior like this from him is dangerous, and will continue to escalate until it is unbearable for you. It is called controlling for him trying to keep you on a leash while he gets to do what he wants. For you it is called co-dependency. You are better than this! You need to get away, FAST. Read up on controlling and abusive behaviors, I bet you see his behaviors in all of the information you find.
Breaking up with someone like that is one of the hardest things to do because they know just what to do or say to push your emotion buttons. Get your friends, your real friends, to help. Let them know you are going to break up with him and have them run interference for you. You will need the emotional support.
Don't even tell him, or he will try to talk you out of it, or try to make you feel bad for wanting to leave. Just go into school and do not talk to him. Walk with your friends, not him. If he calls your name, look at him, say hello and walk on. Do not answer if he texts or calls. If he tries to talk to you in person, just say something like you are busy and do not have the time to talk to him. Or tell him something like thanks it's been fun, enjoy your life and WALK AWAY. With your friends by your side to keep you busy and keep your mind off of things, it will help you go get over him.
What ever you do, do not go back to him, no matter how badly you want to. If you start to feel that twinge, call a friend. Also, make a list of all of the things he does to make you feel bad or unimportant to him. Each and every time you start to feel like you cannot live without him, read the list. Keep yourself safe.
2007-10-23 07:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by Girl Next Door 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really simple, at least in my mind! Tell him directly that you don't want to see him anymore, and then stick to your guns. There are tons of other guys out there who will treat you with the respect and care that you deserve.
2007-10-23 07:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by Rose T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋