Isn't it funny when you look back?

Question

Before i had my daughter i was i'm going to breast feed she's not having a dummy she is only having organic food never watching t.v. ect. When she was born she was early and not well unable to suck hard enough to breast feed so i had to bottle. She has a dummy when she sleeps and her foods home made but not all organic. I just find it funny my ideas of being super mum!!

Answer 1

Ha ha, that is so true. My baby was never gonna have a dummy! Desperation finally drove me to it, and guess what? His teeth did NOT grow in a circle! Mine ate out of jars - after sleepless nights I couldn't be bothered to cook! I was also a failure at breastfeeding and both my lads are strapping hunks now, in spite of all my good intentions going pear-shaped! We should just enjoy our babies and not try to conform to somebody's idea of supermum. Their childhood is over in the blink of an eye.

Answer 2

In all honesty, I kept to my "big" beliefs - no pacifier (although now, a pacifier is supposed to prevent SIDS for the first 6 months - go figure), no TV/playpen/baby seat as a babysitter, nursed until he decided to stop, we taught Baby Signs, and made all homemade, organic baby food. Then again, my baby was only 5 weeks early - had I been dealing with a baby born "really" preemie, I'm sure a lot of those things would have flown out the window. But the biggest idea I had in my head before he was born - that it would be a breeze and no way would I be the kind of mom who was ever stressed out - well, that's ancient history! I do lose my patience on some days, and on occasion I raise my voice. If I had known three years ago I would be doing this (I'm not even talking about yelling, just not having the whole "raising a kid is a piece of cake" attitude), I would have been appalled. But now, although I do sometimes feel guilty, I know it's pretty normal; no parent is perfect. So you are so right - it's easy to be Super Mom when you don't have any kids!

Answer 3

I know what you mean! my kids now love TV, eat home made but definately not organic food and 'gasp' some packaged foods when I'm in a rush! and even though they were breast fed till 7-8mths I also formula fed too!
Aren't I a terrible mother, lol!

The only thing I said I would do was use a dummy if needed (probably to ease my pain more than theirs!) but my first wouldn't take it but the second more than made up for it by getting addicted to it and had one for over 2yrs! Thank god we have been dummy free for about nearly 6mths now. I hated that d*mn thing!

Oh the funny things we say before we know better!

Answer 4

Yes it is a surprise how all those things that you considered to be intolerable in other peoples children become tolerable or at worst mildly irritating when you have your own.

I feel sorry for parents who want to die or embarrassment when their children kick over the traces in a public place. Having had our own children and grandchildren I think I can now tolerate anything a small child does after all it is the only time in life that you can make your feelings known clearly and without compromise. You are going through a learning process which is both wonderful infuriating, sad and funny often all at the same time. Try to enjoy it because it will be gone before you realise it

Answer 5

With my first baby, I was 21 yrs old and didn't like the thought of breastfeeding so I formula fed her. I felt so guilty when she was a newborn and my boobs were huge. With my 2nd baby girl, I was 23 and I not only gave birth to her naturally (not by choice lol) but I did breastfeed her. I got a 2nd chance and I'm glad I did because I over came my fear. I even wanted to make all her early foods homeade. Never did that. It is funny that sometimes things don't seem as important as once was thought.

Answer 6

I was the same way. I mean i thought of only breast feeding that only worked for a month. Then i started slipping and didnt do things the way i should have. I got lazy. Not because i could but because i had another child. They are only 17 months apart. WOW it was nice to be lazy everyonce in a while

Answer 7

I know what you mean , my idea was I'm breastfeeding till they are 18mrth-2yrs , I'm going to spend every after noon at the park , three Sq meals a day , night time read a story at bed time then go back down stairs & watch TV with my husband. In reality it was rush rush rush, breastfeeding went out of the window at 2 weeks if not before as I ran out of milk , my daughter (2nd) was ill & spent the first part of her year in & out of hospital & at 23yrs it has not done her any harm :) then her little brother ( 5yrs younger) ran out at 11 days ( the poor wee sole was crying all night & I could not stop him , the next day I ran up to the clinic then the health visitor pointed out I had no milk ( talk about feeling gilty :( ) as for the park we never got there as I also developed Post - natal depression that stayed with me but over bthe years I have found out There is No Such family or person who is a perfic mother

Answer 8

I know what you mean- you adjust a lot of your 'pre-parenting' notions to fit the real thing once you have a baby. I was the opposite- while pregnant with my first, i couldn't IMAGINE nursing (was a young Mom the first time around). Once he arrived, gave it a go and breast fed for a few months- something I could not see myself doing when first pregnant.

Answer 9

ha ha. you sound just like i did when i was pregnant. and when my son was born, he wanted everything doing the opposite! he was never satisfied of breastmilk, had a dummy after 2 weeks, and refuses to sleep on his back. he used to stretch onto his side and sleep, but now he can roll all the way over and sleeps on his front.
Strange isnt it!

Answer 10

I can totally relate!! The idea of having a child is so much different than actually having one. Once you are doing it for awhile, you just learn how to survive by any means necessary.

Here's to chicken nuggets and box macaroni and cheese dinners!! ;)