We just started dating a little over a week ago. For a week or two prior we "courted", but both of us had just gotten out of a different relationship.
Now we have two problems... He says he fell quickly for me and is extremely romantic, affectionate, and sexual. In fact, one could call him clingy.
I, on hand, am very independent by nature and not nearly as affectionate. Too much romance makes me want to run the other way, in fact.
Also, this is his second relationship (even in his mid twenties) ever. Good as his intentions may be, I don't think that I believe a person can fall in love so quickly as he did.
Now, we are trying to figure out what compromises we can make to keep a relationship. He is a very good hearted person and a caring friend. What I want to know is how far should a person compromise what they need and want in order to give the other person what they want?
2007-10-22 20:41:36 · 13 answers · asked by chienloup06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Compromise ------ if you both do its fine.
You must recognise some people like to be close to their partners 24/7. You however need more space -- Decide how much and stick to it ! My father was very clingy to my mother but she maintained a lot independence by continuing to have her own time. Make it clear its not rejection. If you love him its the only way it will work.
Good Luck
xxxxx
2007-10-22 20:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much compromise is when you against your own beliefs. You say he's sexual, this early in a relationship, do you believe it is right to act on this?
And since you both have gotten out of relationships, are you sure his feelings are truely for you and not just a rebound thing?
2007-10-23 04:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by 1080 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are only a week into this relationship and already having problems you should get out!! sounds like u two rushed into it too fast anyways..to answer your questions..compromise should go as far as you want it to..until you run out of things to compromise about..until you are un happy and uncomfortable..that should be the end..of that and the end of the relationship
2007-10-23 03:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I don't think this will work. I had a lady friend in the same situation, and she waited a year to end it. Her former boyfriend is very bitter about it. He feels like he's been led on, rejected, etc.
The longer you stick together, the harder it will be to break up. If the relationship works, that can be a very good thing. If the relationship doesn't work, that is a disaster waiting to happen.
2007-10-23 03:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One should never compromise one's personal integrity for the sake of another. You are not responsible for meeting his emotional needs, HE is.
In his defence (sort of- just playing devil's advocate), I believe it IS possible to fall hard and fast, so he is maybe not doing anything unreasonable. But it could be a sign of future deep insecurity/ possession issues- not that I believe in game-playing, but without explaining anything to him beforehand, try not seeing or speaking to him for a day or two and see if he freaks.
2007-10-23 03:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it has moved slightly faster than normal and you should be cautious of this. He could rebound any minute now. I mean, that's like really fast and scarry. I would run fast. Be friends and see where it goes from there. He is moving too quick. What's the big hurry?
2007-10-23 03:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple - as many as YOU would find acceptable.
So, you give a little, he gives a little.
But, if you are risking breaching your personal integrity for the sake of a relation - that is too much.
If you really love one another , talk about this.
Take time for it.
And yes, it is possible to fall in love that quick.
2007-10-23 03:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by U_S_S_Enterprise 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication. You should both talk it out and express both of your needs and wants. Compromise is 50/50. If someone doesn't give enough or one gives too much then it'll doom everything.
2007-10-23 03:46:01 · answer #8 · answered by BeLLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him, you can tell him how you feel, and see what he says back, in order for you to mae a compromise...
2007-10-23 03:46:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when youre giving more than youre recieving. when all the compromises seem to be for the other person.
2007-10-23 03:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋