i'm in a long distance (well not really long distance, 2 hours drive away) relationship with my man, and he never ever flirts with anybody. but i see on his facebook, that girls always flirt with him?! i dont know quite what to do, since i can't really meet them or anything,.. but i really want to tell them off without being too stupid or immature.
is there a good way?
and what's the best way to show that i'm his girl when he meets somebody that he knows?
2007-10-22 20:15:29 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow, this was kinda freaky.. i guess i didnt explain enough ,, i check my boyfriend's facebook (he tells me his password), and he deletes messages/comments as he gets them. and his status clearly says "in a relationship"... but they still decide to 'spank, bite, lick, etc.." him!?! and leave comments. . . . .:S
2007-10-22 20:32:49 · update #1
They flirt with him on facebook..huh? How are you certain he isnt flirting back? If he knows them in person he could be doing it that way....you wouldnt know cause your not around..and he sure wouldnt tell you..or he could be sending private messages...I dont think they would do it JUST to do it..or continue to do it if they havent gotten any sort of response from him...think about it..hes a man.. I DOUBT he is being a saint......
If you want to show ur his girl..tell him to put YOUR picture on his PAGE with the title "my girl" under it..lets see what he says then..
2007-10-22 20:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Marking your territory?
Why does it matter if women flirt with him? You just said, he doesn't flirt back.... soooo, what are you affraid of?
If you say or do anything, they will blow it out of perportion, run to your man and tell him that you are crazy... They will tell him what you said, and probably even lie about some stuff you didn't say to try to interfear in your relationship.
Then what you did there was caused drama around this guy who obviously wants you and not these other girls, and he probably will get sick of the drama and not want to be with you.
Chill out, it's facebook, it's not like these girls are his next door neighbors trying to bed him down.
EDIT:::
Since you added some more information, I just wanted to say, this sort of goes to prove my point. He trusts you enough, and obviously has nothing to hide, to give you his password.
Anything that you say or do to these girls/women would actually be a breach of that trust that he gave you.
I don't use facebooks, but, I am assuming that "flirts" on there you mean, there's a button they can push that says "kiss" or whatever and that is what is sent. If this is the case, it's just a button on the internet, it's not like they are writting him saying "let's do it shookie shookie now".... Facebooks is a game, just like myspace, to most people. A place to contact real people yes, but, also a place to flirt around a bit.
That's just what it's designed for. You seriously should just let it go. Neither he, nor you, can controll what other people do, so, if you don't like it, delete both of your facebooks accounts. But, at the same time, you probably shouldn't go out in public with him, because I would hate to see your reaction when some girl stares at him too hard.
I have no other way to put this. Leave it alone. Otherwise, it could put your relationship in jeopardy. Why ruin your relationship over something that you have no control over?
I am not being mean, I'm just saying that this is the world we live in. I understand your frustration, but, seriously, why allow those things that you can't control to control you emotionally?
Hope all works out for you, seriously.
2007-10-22 20:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by centexdance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really nothing you can do....girls are going to be girls and some of them will flirt with a guy and do whatever it takes to get his attention whether he has a girl or not. He has to be the one to tell them other chicks to back off. If you trust him, just sit back, be confident, and enjoy the fact that you have what so many other girls want!!! And as far as seeing them in public, hopefully your man has enough manners to introduce you to everyone as his girlfriend!!!
2007-10-22 20:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by Cyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as the internet thing goes... just blow it off. It's the internet. A lot of people let the things that happen on myspace, facebook, etc. get involved in their lives so much, that it ruins it. Talk to your man, tell him how you feel. As far as showing someone he knows that your together, just tell them... or if you want to be slick about it, say us a lot, and we did this is... ect, and they will eventually catch on, but if it's an ex girlfriend or whatever, hold his hand, hug on him, give him a kiss, whatever. just don't take it to far :)
2007-10-22 20:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by LiLMUNCHKiN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are secure in yourself and your man than let it roll off your back. If you must, post something on his facebook that suggest he is taken. Telling the girls off will do nothing to solve the problem. They are just going to keep doing it. If they see you could care less about what they see, they will eventually stop.
2007-10-22 20:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by yayaquack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your uncomfortable with it. If he doesn't accept that...then thats not cool. Guys should only want to be flirted with by you. Plus he wont think your immature he'll find it cute that your jealous. Guys love that! Means your being protective. Of course it all depends on how long you've been together. You can tell them off..Its your right as being his. ^.^- Hope this helps
2007-10-22 20:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most mature way to deal with the situation is to be learn to be secure enough in yourself, your relationship, and your trust in your man, that this does not even bother you. if your boyfriend is not flirting back or responding in any way, why should you worry? all it means is that you have a hot boyfriend. doesn't every girl (and gay guy) want a hot boyfriend? you've got one, so enjoy that and be thankful he's truly into you.
2007-10-22 20:21:57 · answer #7 · answered by mackkie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so worried about it? Flirting is a normal part of human interaction and it is harmless in most cases. Just let it go as it is. By doing this, you can see how faithful he is to you, and determine the strength of your relationship.
2007-10-22 20:24:15 · answer #8 · answered by mhonorey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make it be known on his facebook you are his girl..could you post comments or something? how are the other girls flirty? can everyone see? sounds like you are working too hard to let it be known you are his girl..why isnt he doing that? and how you know hes not flirting? if hes getting all this attention he must be entertaining it..i think its a red flag..you should look into it..
2007-10-22 20:19:51 · answer #9 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 10:53:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋