About a week ago my boyfriend out of no where accused me of something. (no not cheating). I let him know that his accusation was false, but he continued to accuse me. In all honesty I had done nothing, he wouldn't listen. So after that plus insulting me, he said he was leaving, and infact left me. He called the next day, we talked, he did not apologize, but said if I wanted to be with him he would come back. Stupidly, I said okay. A few hours later he again told me to "***** off" and left. A friend of his informed me that since he left me, he has been hanging around a girl he just met, but that it is "nothing serious". He came back again last night saying we'd work it out, but soon after, once again, left. I have known him six years, dated for two and a half. I love him to death and don't understand why he is doing this to me. I don't know what to do, wait around and hope he'll come to his senses, or just move on. I really don't want to lose him though.
Any advice or thoughts?
2007-10-22 20:00:20 · 13 answers · asked by Life..or something like it. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The first thought that came into my head when I read this was that he had just invented whatever he accused you of so he could feel less bad about leaving and chatting with this new girl.
You've known him for this long. And he just left for a third time. Let him be. Don't see him for a few days. See how he feels when he's without you.
He hurt you. If he realizes that, he'll apologize the next time he sees you and never do it again. If he doesn't come back, cry a little, remember the good times, and feel grateful that you don't have to be around someone so fickle anymore.
2007-10-22 20:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-09 06:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this were a marriage I would say it's "the seven year itch".
But I think he wants to "play the field" & hasn't got the courage to tell you.
I think the questions you have to ask yourse lf are
A) Do you love him enough to take him back if you found out he'd been with someone else?
B) Could yout trust him enough after that?
Whatever the reasons he doesn't see your relationship the same way as you do. To treat you as he is at the moment says he respect for you is low.
You are quite right be very concerned & your pain must be awful.
As I see you can either do as you suggest, wait & see, or move on.
I think the best way to stop the pain is to be up front & put the choice in front of him.
Ask him straight out why he's behaving this way & to explain himself.
There's a chance he'll come right out & want to to end your relationship.
He might be shocked into realising what he's risking & decide to sort things out.
If he's evasive, or can't/won't explain what's going on then I tell him to either "shape up or ship out". - get his act together, treat your with respect, accept you are telling the truth or move out of your life.
There's only a 30% chance in the above you'll get to a situation you're happy with - I hope you do.
That might sound bad, but the sooner you know if it is bad news the sooner you can deal with & do whatever it takes to get your life back.
One last point.
If he does promise to sort himself out & starts this all over again you'll be at the original question. In that instance, throw him out straight away - he will always betray your trust he'll be the one who's lied.
2007-10-22 20:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by tone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Six years is a long time to just throw away. But it sounds like he has some insecurities and your relationship with him doesnt sound healthy. Talk to him and explain to him that constantly breaking up and having fits wont help your relationship...explain to him that its not healthy and that he is playing with your emotions. Let him know not to use the break-up line unless he is seriously ready to let go. Although six years is a long time to just throw away you have to ask yourself when enough is enough. Dont let him conrtol you by threatening to leave everytime something goes wrong or doesnt believe something you say to him. He will think that he has you wrapped around his finger and that all he has to do is threaten to leave for you to come back around and act the way he wants you to act. Stand your ground and dont let him belittle you. Bottom line talk to him!
I hope you two can work things out....Good luck!
2007-10-22 20:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by Cyn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's funny hw so many of us women r treated this way...all because we love our man so much and often take so much nonsense in our stride.. I would suggest you stop accomadating him...its time you stop welcomin him all the time...may be this will make him realise hw much u mean to him..but clearly give it some time....as they say..when one door closes, another door opens that we had our backs turned to n i wish this happens for u..
2007-10-22 20:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl8 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that he's confused...just tell him straight in the eye with a very honest look that you didn't do it to him because you have feelings for him...if he's mad that means he feels something good for you cause he's catching emotions easily...I don't think something like this is worth losing a relationship over...
2007-10-22 20:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you need to move on babygirl, i have been in a simular situation something like this one...you need to move on..it seems as though he's using you as the sideline chick..when him and that other girl is not going the way he wants it to he runs back to you..and when him and her are back doing good he runs back to her and leaves you..and just tells you things because it sounds good to be back with him when he's lonely..you see what im saying? you deserve better then to be a rebound chick..and to be takin advantage of..hes going to keep doing this as long as you keep letting him do this..MOVE ON!! let him know you are not going to take his b.s any more or his games and you are not going to sit around waiting on him to use you like a puppet etc etc..time to move on sweetheart and let that looser go.tell him go be with that chick hes been leaving you for..tell him you are far from a toy you deserve better
2007-10-22 20:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
love hurts......i would move on....if he wanted to work things out he wouldn't be leaving all the time and he wouldn't be hanging around another girl.....it may not be "anything serious "now but for how long will that last.....find someone who does want to be with you
2007-10-22 20:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by Sherry 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl stop being a door mat for him to walk all over when ever he wants to. Move on and show him that you can do much better.
2007-10-22 20:06:00 · answer #9 · answered by Jai 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
leave him! any guy who acts like a baby because he does not get his way... wa wa wa! He does not care about your feelings, only his.... he will always be like this
You do not need to be with a guy who treats you like that. Forget about guys who talk bad to you... He does not respect you and will never love you, he will only use you and abuse you. He needs to grow up.
If you act like you dont care,,, his true feelings will come around. If they don't then it is not meant to be.
If you stay with him and get married, the abuse will get physical and more mental.
2007-10-22 20:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by More or less 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋