2007-10-22 19:37:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Be kind and respectful to them, show them how much you love their son, and Be Yourself. If they have any different cultural traditions from you, be willing to participate in these. Try to be comfortable and warm with them and don't be too formal. Just relax and give it time. When they see that their son is happy with you, they'll be happy with you too.
My future husband is from another country, although he has lived in the US for the past 12 years. My future in-laws were not at all happy when my fiance told them about the 'American Girlfriend'. However, they eventually realized that he was serious about me, so they invited me to travel with him to their home country to meet them. It went extremely well. While I was there, I participated in their cultural traditions and all the festivities surrounding a big holiday that was going on. I even wore their traditional clothes for a day. I'm also making a good effort to learn their language. I didn't sacrifice being myself, I just put myself in another context. And it's working nicely.
2007-10-23 05:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by SE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha, my soon to be inlaws loved me, just be yourself. The first time I met his dad and his step mom we ended up talking for like 6 hours, even tho he was just picking up his cell phone charger he forgot there. By then end of the night they were telling me when they are doing family things and when to take off work.
Within the next few weeks they approached him about if we ever decide to get married theyd pay for the honeymoon.
They are like my second family, actually they are closer to me then my own family.
Just be yourself, dont be something your not, because its hard to put that front on for the next 70 years.
2007-10-23 02:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by chattergurl1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard. Parents are either the kind who embrace someone their child loves or they are the kind who sees the person as taking their child away from them. If they want to like you they will and if they don't want to then they will find things "wrong" with you no matter how nice you are. All you can do is be kind, polite, respectful and not be too comfortable with them. Always be on your guard and watch what you say and do.
2007-10-23 09:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I was scared to meet my in laws (second marriage) at first. But I found that just being myself and showing respect towards them gained alot of ground for me. Oh, always be honest with them. My father in law (at the time I was dating his daughter) was really stand offish with me because I had four children from my previous marriage. I guess he figured that I wasn't going to be around for very long. It's funny but when I showed him her engagement ring for the first time I think he knew then that I was going to be around for along time. That was 5 years ago. Hopefully that makes a little sense to you.
2007-10-23 02:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by Scott R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won my future in-laws' hearts when my boyfriend had to go to the emergency room and I cried on the phone with his mom, who lived halfway across the country. We bonded in our concern for my boyfriend and she felt better knowing that I was taking care of him when she wasn't around.
I am, of course, not suggesting that you cause your boyfriend to meet with some sort of "unfortunate accident" so you can take him to the ER.
But showing them how much you love your fiance is important. Be confident in your love for each other -- don't feel awkward about talking about the future and being sweet to one another when you're at your in laws home. Just show them that you're happy with one another. That's what they want -- just the reassurance that you want to share in their family and be a daughter to them. Ask them for advice on the wedding. Make plans with them in mind. If he's close to them, invite them (when appropriate) to dinner on Sunday or to some holiday events and parties. Show them that you appreciate how much they mean to him and that you want to know them better.
2007-10-23 07:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by weirdiscomplimentary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cook them a big sit down dinner with dessert appetizers the whole 9 yards. Make a little slideshow with music using http://www.onetruemedia.com of you and your fiance, you can put little slides of your own words in there. Show it to them prooving how much you love your fiance. Make a dessert that they love, either from their ethnic background or just a favorite of theirs. Cook it yourself, they'll appreciate it more.
2007-10-23 04:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by yungin4lyfe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Thats what I did and they love me. I mean if you pretend when you first meet them, they will eventually find out the real you because you cant pretend the whole time. So just relax and have a good time doing whatever you guys will be doing and just be yourself.
2007-10-23 05:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by hoping4baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prepare a nice a meal for them or bake something. At least they dont have to worry about their son & grandchildren having to eat McDonalds all the time !!! lol. To top it off, make something creative for them such as cross stitch or knit something.
2007-10-23 11:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat their son well.
Suggested reading: "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands."
2007-10-23 02:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r not marrying your in-law, all you hv to win is
your wife heart.
Relax everything should be alright.
2007-10-23 04:36:18 · answer #10 · answered by Advanced Life-Form 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋