appeal. I like closeness with guys but I need him to be more dominant and a little on the "bad" side so I am kept on my toes. But the last guy I liked that was a little "bad" didn't try too hard to see me after we slept together once! We were friends, hooked up a few times over the course of 7 months, then finally had sex, then I haven't seen him bc we cant get our schedules togehter. BUT If he HAD tried, I bet by now I'd be over him bc he'd lose his mystery and sex appeal. I'm not sure why.. I'm already 31 and my parents are still married and everything but I wonder why I might get bored with guys. I think I need to face the fact that people have ups and downs but even my exboyfriend that I LOVED and found SO SEXY is no longer that sexy to me bc he calls me alot and seems needy and wants to be my bf again. HELP! When does the chase turnon end? and why do I feel mean about it??
2007-10-22 19:22:06 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously, you do not know what a meaningful relationship should be. The chase is just the initial part of the relationship. At a certain point the excitement of the chase is over. That is when it is up to you to find ways to create other excitement in the relationship. Try doing different things. Try surpirsing him once in a while. You will be surprised yourself to find out how much he will get turned on, and show you an exciting time in return.
Your problem is that you think the guy needs to be the one always creating the excitement. In a good relationship, it is both parties--not necessarily at the same time, but you pick up each others slack.
If a guy calls a lot, that does not mean he is necessarily needy. It means that he cares for you. You apear to be running away from the best part of a relationship. That is the time when you feel secure and know that you are special in that person's life. Try it, you may like it. It sure beats the heck out of being used for sex.
Have you considered that you may may have a relationship phobia?
2007-10-22 19:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you're in wrong forum lol-I think is a psycological issue with getting close with people.
You have a sense of personality from what you said"I loved and found so sexy is no longer sexy to me" You don't like needy people or someone that depends for you to love.I think you have to workout on some personal demons and issues with yourself before you can give up part of you life to someone.
I suggest investing in good therpist or write out how you feel over your thoughts.
Go to Psychology.com
or www.webmd.com
good luck..
Does not sound like love more like PASSION!
2007-10-22 19:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
you like the chase most definately, i think it's time to find a new guy to chase, and just let this other guy be. get yourself something new and exciting =)
2007-10-22 19:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Grow up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-22 19:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by zzz311 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋