My husband and I are going to have our 5 year anniversary in a few days. We have one child, a daughter, who turned 2 in July. She is the light of our lives. We both just adore her and love her to pieces. My husband and I both have baby fever again, really bad. The only thing holding me back is I don't want to deprive my daughter of any thing. She is becoming very independant, but still has her moments quite often when she wants us all to herself. I want to make sure she is ready emotionally and developmentally for a sibling. Any advice?
2007-10-22 19:16:46 · 10 answers · asked by rtamanda 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I guess it all depends, me and my brother are 2 years apart (26 mo) and we paractically hated eachother our entire childhood. He's 19 and just starting to become nice/tolerable.. and we're starting to become friends. He was nice to me when he was 14 for a little bit because I'd just turned 16 and could drive him anywhere he wanted (if he was nice to me lol)
I have a son that just turned 2, he's almost 26 mo. and I am thinking about getting pregnant in january or febuary. It's different with me, because I'm not married and I had my son at 18- so I'm fairly young still... but I'm more ready for another child then I am for marriage (it may sound weird, but now-days people aren't getting married) I'm still with the same guy and "co-habitating".
Anyway, I think you're child will adjust to anything, as well as you guys will. You were probably wondering how to plan for the baby girl you have now, and once she got here, you don't know how you lived without her... and you adjusted- it will be the same with the new child! You won't see how you lived without him/her.
Anyway, it's a very difficult decision, because you don't want to have regrets, but I highly doubt you will! You'll probably be thinking "he's so cute! why didn't we have him sooner?" or "she loves her little brother so much, I'm glad he's here".
The only issue I can forsee is if she isn't fully potty trained before the baby gets here, she might have "accidents" and rebound. But it's all stuff you can deal with.
Good luck!
2007-10-22 23:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by natalie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're ready to have another then do it....kids adjust quickly. I have 5 kids...between #1 and 2 there's 3 years...#2 to 3 there's 3 years...#3-4 there's 2 years and #4-5 there's only 13 months between them and they all did just fine. They're now 12, almost 9, 6, 5, and then the baby who is 10 months and with her they were older and do awesome.
2007-10-22 19:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it. She will be fine. There are books that will be helpful in explaining a new sibling to your daughter. My baby is 14 mos and I plan to try to get pregnant this winter. There are several reasons to keep children close in age. They will be able to play together better if they are closer in age like 2 and 4 than say 2 and 7, hand things down, etc.
2007-10-24 03:43:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter will be 3 in January and I'm due in April with our 2nd. My husband and I planned to have our children as close to 3 years apart as we could. My sister and I are 3 years apart and very close. My daughter is also very independent but still wants all of our attention too. I'm not showing much yet, but as I do, I plan on involving her in every step and explaining that a baby is coming. I plan on going to the library to get her some books that might help explain to her that mommy is pregnant. It's still hard for her to understand. I tell her a baby is in my tummy and she lifts up my shirt looking for it. Hope this helps!
2007-10-22 19:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by Precious 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've continually been in opposition to it too however not too long ago a buddy of a pregnant buddy stated she desired to throw her a "sprinkle" get together. She has a five yr historical boy and is now pregnant with a lady. It'll be a small lunch with near peers and loved ones most effective and items are not obligatory. It's extra of a social gathering. Maybe you would do this. Congrats to you each and well good fortune!
2016-09-05 20:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by morkve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think now is the prefect timing. I am the same situation. i am almost married for 5 years now and we have a daughter.She is 2 and half years old. We are trying for te 2nd. It is good for the kids to be close age together. They get a long better and you will get over with childhood at the same time.
My sister and i are 2 years apart and we are best friends, like twins :)
2007-10-22 20:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by NSTardie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are ready she will adjust...kids do it so easily just make her part of the pregnancy as much as possible as far as letting her feel kicks and things.
2007-10-22 19:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by Ria B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the closer they are in age, the closer i think they will be growing up. right now would be a good time, i think. i did it the same way, and my sons are best friends.
2007-10-22 19:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait until kid #1 is in preschool , then you will have time for the baby and there will be less competition.
2007-10-22 19:21:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you're ready.
2007-10-22 19:21:19 · answer #10 · answered by Ponteeee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋