I feel so awkward and embarrassed... this guy in my class first asked me out to dinner and I couldn't go and so I tried to make it up to him by asking him to come over. Well he did, and I was trying to flirt (TRYING to, haha). At the end of the night as we were leaving he was talking about how he needed to shave and how his facial hair looked bad and I said "no, it looks good." and that was the first blatant compliment/hit-on I gave him. And he just stared at me for a second, no smile. It gave me the intention that he doesn't like me anymore. Maybe I've been so shy he now thinks I am weird and doesn't like me. I give up! I will just close up to him. What do you think?
2007-10-22 19:11:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was fishing for a compliment by saying that he thought his facial hair looked bad. Let me tell you if he decides he doesnt like you because you complimented him on his facial hair then who needs him - what a baby. You are not weird - maybe unsure and you should try to go out and be around more males so you feel more comfortable. Besides let me clue you into one of lifes supreme truths "what he thinks of you is none of your business" this sounds wierd cause we all want others to think well of us but the reality is they are going to think whatever and we cannot control that in anyway - so you gotta be you and let it go. Work on your self esteem so that what some guy thinks about you complimenting him on his facial hair doesnt send you into such a tizzy. Dont close up to him - be whoever you are for real and let him do whatever he is going to do with that - that is his choice - you are a good person no matter what happens and you need to work very hard on believing that in your head first and in heart second. GOOD LUCK
2007-10-22 19:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by livelongandprosper2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't jump to conclusions so quickly - please learn this lesson - and try to give people more time. especially men, they aren't women.
I can understand why he would not have taken that as a complement, and that he would have been irritated by what you said. He already determined he didn't like his facial hair so I would have left it at that.
that doesnt' mean he doesnt' like you anymore - it means that he may have been irritated with what you said. nothing more. It may not even mean that.
you don't need to come to any conclusion about this so far. you can't always go by your feelings. you have to give people enough time for things to work themselves out before you just jump to this or that conclusion.
you don't know what he thinks. why don't you give him enough time to tell you...
2007-10-22 19:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by art_flood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he looked at your weird because his facial hair really did actually look bad and he thought you werent being honest. give this guy 1 more chance and if its still negative let it go
2007-10-22 19:15:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him over again and try not be sexy or flirty : ).
just be yourself, relax and smile and give simple honest complications, whenever in doubt change the subject or dont talk
2007-10-22 19:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel embarrassed, HE'S the one who asked you out! i thought it was a good idea that you told him that. see how things go next time you are together.
2007-10-22 19:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to come over one night because you want to shave him
2007-10-22 19:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by Shawn P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say" i'm glad you're in my class and my friend.Smile.
2007-10-22 19:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah he was probably thinking "WTF? why are you trying to suck up to me when it clearly doesnt look good" kinda thing. its not something to lose sleep over. guys forget details like that anyway.
2007-10-22 19:17:36 · answer #8 · answered by niugirl1114 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋