help please
2007-10-22 18:42:39 · 14 answers · asked by Mandy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just be as honest as you can.. even the slightest lie will cause your partner to believe if you lied about this then what else have you lied about. ultimately it is them that needs to change. there isn't really much you can do about their insecurity. if you have male friends and that's all they are and your partner cant handle it and doesn't want you having those friends or even if its female friends i would say its time to move on... or tell him how its going to be because if you stop hanging with your friends just because he is insecure its going to ruin you...♣
2007-10-22 18:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by SecretSquirrel 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the person you are dating is insecure; it is possible that this person had have some very insecure relationship in their past. Before you decide to leave (unless you already did this) ask him/her the types of relationship he/she has have in the past whatever it was with other people or bad family history? Also reassure this person that you care for him/her and that trust is important part of a relationship (he/she dose not have to trust you right away but within time he/she well learn how to turst you).
2007-10-22 18:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Mandy,
If your not strong enough, or patient enough to help him with all of his insecurities, than I'd join a church if you really love him and ask him to come. Not just any church either. We're talking "Pentecostal" church! They can deliver him from all of his insecurities!! Their just demonic spirits from his abusive, or neglected childhood. Something happened to make him this way that was so hurtful he can't help himself but to be this way. I know because I was married to a ver insecure man for half my life. Oh a good 18 years!! So, if you love him enough I just recommend either calling a church and asking them how to pray for him, or taking him to church, so that God can give you the strength to deal with his insecurities, and so that God can help him to get completely rid of them. Their just emotional scars from something in his past. Good Luck hun. There's Power in prayer!! I'm a living walking, breathing "Miracle" of the "Power of Prayer!!" Smile!!
2007-10-22 18:52:06 · answer #3 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unlike some of the early posting would-present-themselves-as-doktorlove's here, I am going to assume you know what you're doing by wanting to stick with him/her. That having been said, the answer: with patience and a willingness to give encouragement. It's a lot of work sometimes, but if you decide it's worth it, go for it.
2007-10-22 18:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by farouhk 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hit the road. They are broken from their early childhood and will always be an anchor.
2007-10-22 18:45:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
mandy. dont ever get in with that type in the end you get the hurt where he lacks being a man and just dating him think very hard on this matter . my opion?
2007-10-22 18:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dump him and find someone better, i used to be like that, then i found out otherwise, tey're just not ready to have a relationship with, trust me.
2007-10-22 18:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
like with any person
2007-10-22 19:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by heartbreak kid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
build them up. make them realize that they have a lot of potential. don't degrade them or make them feel worse. just be a good friend and build them up. if they realize how others feel about them then they may just cheer up a little!
good luck! :)
2007-10-22 18:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by .. 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I did that. It was a mess. There's no way to help him unless he gets therapy. Get out...Save yourself!
2007-10-22 18:46:49 · answer #10 · answered by nondescript 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋