I dont like my mom's boyfriend. We were going on a day trip with him this past weekend. She said she wasnt going to make his lunch he was going to make his own, but then she went and made him a lunch for the trip. Today I went to make a sandwich for lunch and there was no sandwich meat left. I asked her where it was and she said its gone because she had to make her boyfriends lunch too.
I said "I cant believe after you said you wouldnt you made him a lunch anyway, and now there's nothing left for me because you gave it all to him"
I know I was wrong for giving her an attitude like that but do you really think I deserved to have an Extra Large Ice Coffee thrown in my face?
2007-10-22 18:25:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
LOL, it wasnt about the meat, I could have easily gotten something else for lunch it was just the fact that it was gone because it went to her boyfriend who me and my brother and sister hate.
I admit that yes I was wrong but for that little thing I think she could have just yelled at me or sent me to my room for the day, not throw a huge ice coffee in my face
2007-10-22 18:44:13 · update #1
He doesn't live with us, he just came over for the day.
I am 19.
She is a very loving mother and she does put us first, but today she just freaked out over something so little.
2007-10-22 19:06:17 · update #2
She made him the lunch out of love, yet as a mother she should've made sure there was enough for everyone. As for throwing her drink in your face? Yes I think her comeback could've been a bit more refined but everyone's different. My mother would've just slapped me and went on her way.
2007-10-22 18:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by BeLLa 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just because she said that she "was not" making his sandwich does not mean that she "would not" make his sandwich. Why does it matter if she makes a sandwich any way. Your mother has enough love for both of you. Perhaps on the next outing, she should allow you to invite a friend so that "3's not a crowd." Maybe she shouldn't include you at all, if you are going to get jealous and force her to choose between you or another person, create a scene and ruin a good time for all. It's nice that you are so close to your mother, however, you also need friends your own age that enjoy activities that also appeal to you.
2007-10-23 02:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by conniecat59 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but start looking for another family member to live with. This sounds like your mom is the kind of woman who puts her man above her kids, I hope this isn't the case but start looking now cause when and if it's happens that's not the time to figure it all out. I'm probably a lot older than you, but your story sounds all too familiar to me and without a plan B it never ends well. These were not the actions of a stable loving mother. All abuse usually starts small then escalates and if some of your other answer are any indication of parent/child relationships then abuse is even more accepted than I feared.Good Luck.
2007-10-23 01:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by info.girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she was wrong to throw coffee in your face. Maybe my "standards" are too high, but that behavior, as far as I'm concerned, is just out-and-out nuts.
Whether you like her boyfriend or not is one issue, and one that isn't going to get solved very easily.
Whether she had the right to change her mind about making him sandwich and using food she probably bought to make him the sandwich is a different issue.
Whether you were wrong to "give her attitude" is yet another separate issue.
Whether it was nuts of her to throw a drink at you because you said something she didn't like is the real issue.
2007-10-23 02:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your mother should have not gotten together with someone who doesn't respect her for who she is. She has brought a stranger into your life and expects you to love him like he was your father. But that's not the case here. What kind of example is she teaching you for 'shacking up' with this guy? Not a good one.
Your mom needs to put you first in her life and get rid of this guy. She needs to raise you first and when you are out of the house and on your own, she can have a boyfriend. He shouldn't be in the picture.
I think you have a right to be upset, because she is putting him first before you when she is not even married to him. Please, don't make that same mistake she did. Even though she is still your mom, she needs to start acting like one to you. Sorry for saying that.
If you don't want to make the same mistakes, consider reading "10 Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives." That's if you are able to read this book. If not, give this to your mother.
2007-10-23 02:01:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um. no, it wasnt right for you to get that iced coffee thrown in your face...because i love coffee, and because even though you were being a bit snarky it was nothing terrible to say, may.be your mum is just stressed?
2007-10-23 01:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by Janinne 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes she was... There was nothing wrong with what you said, you just stated a fact. It seems like your mother loves this guy more than she does to you...
2007-10-23 02:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by aleihs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother did a stupid thing, but be happy that she is not the only stupid person in the world. We all know stupid people like that.
2007-10-23 03:05:35 · answer #8 · answered by Highland 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never have done that to either of my kids
2007-10-23 01:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, I think she needs some space and not so much hassle about her new guy
2007-10-23 01:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by Mo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋