My girlfriend is constantly bringing up her ex and wont shut up , it really sounds like she is still in love with him after three years of being divorced. Ive talked to her about this and told her how uncomfortable it makes me feel, and how it really kind of pisses me off (i didnt tell her it pisses me off literally) but she got the point in a nice way. She says she is going to make a effort to stop and admitted it was wrong to say these things but it hasnt got much better. Well women, tell me how to handle this , or if im being too anal tell me that too.
2007-10-22 18:09:30 · 8 answers · asked by btmlsswatertrough 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like it is time to move on. She is living in the past... probably still has feelings for her ex, and pretty selfish about it. If she had such feelings for you, she'd shut up about it already... especially after you told her how it makes you feel.
2007-10-22 18:17:10 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of the problems you may be facing could be just the tip of the iceberg on what is really happening in your marriage. I dont mean to scare you but many problems when they either first show up or if they keep reoccurring could be just whats showing from a larger problem that either you or your spouse cannot even see. One of the only things you can do to help is to talk honestly and openly with each other in the marriage. If things become more serious more serious options need to be looked at as possibilities. I have a blog that has more information on some of what I've been writing about. If you feel like checking it out I would completly suggest it. Read here https://tr.im/BK6eP
Love is a choice that is made everyday when you wake up and every night when you go to sleep. Some days you may not feel the original feeling but love isnt a feeling or an emotion. Its an action a verb. Falling out of love may just mean you need to spice things up a little or that you were never in love in the first place. Don't just get out of a marriage just because you don't think you like the person anymore.
2016-07-18 19:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.
2016-04-25 18:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you would like her to view her life with you as a new book. The story to her life with her ex is ended, over, history. Though some things are no doubt going to come to mind for her, she needs to keep it to herself, and keep her ex out of your relationship. My ex... haha ironic... but anyways, my ex did that with me, concerning his ex-wife. I told him it discouraged me. I said that it made me feel like I needed to one-up his ex, even though she was an adulterous b*tch, still... when he always brought her up, it made me see that he wasn't thinking about me, and that I had to somehow make it so I was Better than her. I told him this made me want to act in ways that I wasn't myself, and I wanted to be myself, and told him that we were a new fresh start to his life. In the end, it didn't work out because he actually got verbally abusive with me a few times... On one occasion, it was a day before I got admitted into the hospital because I was really sick (Now I realize it was from stress over the relationship), and he yelled at me for calling him and saying nothing because that's what his ex use to do and he hates it. It made me sick to the core... because all I wanted was to hear his voice when I wasn't feeling well... I am not this woman that ruined his life, and he was treating me the way he treated his ex. When he and I called things off, he admitted he realized he wasn't ready to be in a relationship. Try to work it out with her, but if it keeps being a hitch in the relationship, it might be best to let her go so she can realize how much she needs to value you and your feelings.
2007-10-22 18:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor u. If she didn't get the softer way of understanding u dun like to hear about her EX, tell it to her bluntly. As female, i know we love to make comparison.
Just wondering, shoot her a question, aren't u good enuf for her? See what will she reply. She will get the meaning, if she got the brain. If not, then my condolence to u, as she think with her mouth instead of her brain ....
Good luck ..
2007-10-22 18:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by stormymy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she may like him still.you have to tell her why is she with you if she still thinks about this other guy. she needs to stop or you two will never be happy. your not wrong to be mad i would be mad too.
2007-10-22 18:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring up your ex, and if you don't it's ok fake it.
although it seems a bit immature, she'll get the point.
2007-10-22 18:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by asdfjkl; 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a new girlfriend that has less baggage.
2007-10-22 18:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋