HE PLAYS GAMES. I WANT THEM TO STOP. but i THINK if i stop playing them back, he'll lose interest/get scared

Question

over the summer, i was in a serious fling with a guy who lives in a diff state. we still like each other and actually are planning on visiting each other. tho he is very intense with me and sounds nearly desperate for me, on the phone.. he is inconsistent with his communication -- i think becuz he is trying to play games and is insecure with himself and worries that he won't keep my interest (well hes smart.. becuz he definitely has kept me on my toes). however i also wanna keep him on his toes while at the same time avoiding games. PROBLEM = he plays so many gamesss (So much so, i feel i should play back in order to keep him interested). HOWEVER he also has big trust issues, so i feel like playing these games back just makes him wonder more if he can trust me or not. im worried tho that if all of sudden i beome very persistent and become the one always calling him, he won't feel he needs to chase me/pursue me anymore and thus may lose his interest. how should i act in this situation?

Answer 1

It would be a more honest relationship if you both stopped playing the games.

Answer 2

girl find a guy that lives near you or in your city dont find a guy who lives in different state becuz its never going to work out ok.and if you play games just to keep him interested in you than u need get a life and find a better one. **** im a gamer and i know when to stop and smell the coffee and be with my gf and make her life happy...and if your bf cant do that than get a new one cuz playing games with him isnt a good way

Answer 3

You need to not be a participant in his game anymore. If he is inconsistent in his communication it just means that he is immature. Anyway, who needs an insecure man. You want a man who is confident and sure of himself and therefore does not need to play games.

Answer 4

I think you should dump the fake guy and go find a real one.