psychologically, emotionally
2007-10-22 17:54:58 · 11 answers · asked by padit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I agree with the first person who answered. Give her the chance to express how it made her feel and get her anger and hurt out. And if you love her you will let her say what she needs to without defending your actions. A therapist will make sure no further damage occurs.
2007-10-22 17:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Janica... You cannot get back lost time only ask that she allow you to be part of her life. But I also believe as long as it didn't include, sexual abuse, you can have a normal life eventually. It will take work, and it will take much patience on your part. Perhaps you can start by calling her once or twice a week and after a while up it to a little more. If you are far away you can mail her or email her letters as well as calling. Do what you can to show that you do care inspite of what you have done before. Try to create times of sharing with her. For example. I live in Sweden my daughter lives in the states. We both like to look at the meteor showers so I told her I would wake up early and she stay up late and therefore we could watch the shower together. That helped to create closeness.
2007-10-23 03:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by bssd12000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not turn back the hands of time. All that you can do is offer a sincere apology and ask for a second chance. Remember actions speak louder than words. It is not going to happen over night. Your daughter has to be willing to accept your apology. And while she may never forget the harm that you caused her she will have to be willing to forgive you and move forward. If she is not willing to do this I suggest that you do not push the issue with her this will only cause more hurt and anger. Just let her know that when she is ready that you will be there. I wish you both a lot of luck.
2007-10-23 01:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You can never undo what you did. You can't take it back. You can ask her to let you be a part of her life, if she chooses, then you have an opportunity to try to be a good father from now on. But the reality is you can't get back the lost time and any chance you had at a normal relationship with her is gone forever.
2007-10-23 00:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You took the first step by admitting you hurt her. i give you credit for that. Try to call her and tell her that you would like to take he out for lunch and talk to her. if that don't work write to her and tell her how much you love her and how you want to make peice tell her that you will do anything is she just gives you one more chance. show her that your really trying.i don't know what you did to hurt her real bad but you as a father should never give up she just needs time what ever happened is hard on her send her flowers let her see that you at least try to call her everyday and that your never gonna give up on her. good luck and don't give up she really needs you theres nothing like a fathers love.
2007-10-23 01:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by christina b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 1st of all. Stop hurting her, & never do it again.
Give her time to heal, & as she heals be prepared to answer her questions as to why you would hurt your daughter, if you loved her.
Then when you answer her, make sure that you tell her the truth about what you did and why. Be honest,& don't try to protect yourself with what you say.
2007-10-23 01:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by No More 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you did to hurt her. You may NEVER totally make amends. Counseling may help be civil, it may help mend things, but depending on what you did, it may never happen and you need to accept that that might be the fact.
2007-10-23 00:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by LDBK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would stay, the perfect words, for forgiveness is "am sorry", but it all Mather's on how you say it. try to change a Little,and try viewing your dauthers point of view. roses, to me , would do the trick.,but you know your dither, if shes that upset, suppress her
2007-10-23 01:03:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hurt her!!?
i agree with the first person, but talk to her about getting a therapist
cuz my mom wants me to get one and i cant see y!
2007-10-23 01:01:41 · answer #9 · answered by g poo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to go to a therapist with you to help you two get back together.
2007-10-23 00:57:37 · answer #10 · answered by gma 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋