is it bad that e pnd my boyfriend have oral sex. whenever i hang out with him i always end up in his bed room, . he says if i dont have sex with him then i dont truly love him. what should i do??
2007-10-22 17:07:41 · 49 answers · asked by cutie pie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave him
2007-10-22 17:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by Tim 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Leave his punk a**! He's just using u for sex. He's trying to make u feel obligated to have sex and guilty if u don't. Try this...don't have ANY kind of sex with him oral or intercourse for like the next 2-3 times u hang out with him and see how he behaves....I 'd bet u money it won't be sweet and cool like he is when ur going down. And how old are u? Don't let a man pressure u into anything u don't really want to do. Any man who really loves u is still going to enjoy being w/u even if u are not having sex every time ur together. Find a new guy who won't use u and treat u like a hooker.
2007-10-23 11:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by boolissa2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For him to say that if you don't have sex with him that you don't truly love him is a load of crap. You don't need sex to show you truly love him. From my stand point (and this is the advice I've given to many friends) he's feeding you a line to get you in bed with him. Sex is wonderful, yes, but true love can be expressed in many different ways...a night out doing what he wants to do, listening to him when he has a problem, random gifts that you know he'll love, those are ways that you can show true love. It doesn't take getting in bed with him....hope this helps ya.
2007-10-22 17:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by JT G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell out of that relationship. You deserve so much better and someone like that does not respect you. I have been in those and trust me, nothing good will come out of it. You start to feel used, unloved, and you beat yourself down so much, that you actually end up staying for a longer period of time because you think he is all you can get. THAT IS NOT TRUE! When you try to leave he is probably going to give you some bullshit about how you can't do any better or he will stop, but i cant promise you it won't. Guys like him are the type to start getting violent because they don't get what they want. These are huge bright red flags that you need to pay attention to and protect yourself. My guess is, he is probably cheating on you with someone else that he really cares about and you are the girl on the side or he is doing this same thing with several other girls. Take care of yourself and worry about you. Leave and find someone who loves you because they enjoy spending time with you, not because you can please them.
2007-10-22 17:16:52 · answer #4 · answered by bAmA cHiCk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the deal, if you don't want to... and he insists. He does NOT love you or respect you. Being together is all about respect, and if he's saying that you don't love him because you don't want to have sex with him, think of it this way... it's only what HE wants. He's not thinking about what YOU want. Wouldn't that mean that he doesn't love you either? That might be a bit confusing. Just say no. And if he tries to guilt trip you into it.... he's not for you. Leave him.
2007-10-23 13:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know! Have you had sex with him more than once? If yu have he probably just says that because you know you will do it. I would dump him, unless you really love him. And oral sex isnt bad, but you should make sure your old enough and mature enough!
2007-10-23 11:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex should be an expression of love, not a prerequisite for it. Two people who truly love and respect each other should respect one another's intimate needs and wants. Someone who demands that you have sex with them to show your love isn't interested in respecting YOU. People like that are just looking to please themselves, and use people who care about them to get what they want. If your boyfriend is only interested in what you can do for him sexually, and says that you dont really love him unless you have sex with him is putting himself before you, and manupulating you to get what he wants. Dump the loser! Find a guy who values you enough to love everything about you, not just your sex appeal. You go girl!
2007-10-22 17:14:50 · answer #7 · answered by ladylike17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although it is NOT WRONG for you or anyone to have oral sex, so long as you are responsible for both you and your partner, your "boyfriend" should not force you or use blackmailing tactics to make you do what you are not yet comfortable doing. That is wrong. You can do it but only if you're comfortable. If you're not, strongly reconsider your relationship.
Also, you are not safe from STD's by doing oral sex, make no mistake about it, so again be responsible.
2007-10-22 17:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by raffy_09 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Listen my friend sex is a way to express love if he says that it means that he is trying out ways to do sex with you i feel that you should stop doing sex with him and tell him that if you love me truly then have sex with me after getting married and tell me what he replies i am sure after you listen to the reply you can understand whether his love is true or not i feel that he doesnot love you truely.
2007-10-23 05:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by Raj Chan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please.....are you really stupid enough to fall for that? It's a way to GUILT you into keep doing it.....don't fall for it. If he really loved you, he wouldn't put you in such an uncomfortable position.....it's one thing when you WANT to do it....but it's totally different when your being pressured into it....move on, someone else will be happy to have it when you want to give it, and will take you places and buy you things to get there. Not just to his bedroom.
2007-10-22 17:16:41 · answer #10 · answered by 123..WAIT! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him there's more to a relationship than sex. Ask him how much he truly loves you.
2007-10-22 17:11:52 · answer #11 · answered by Brian C 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋