I met a man who was so kind and sweet 6 yrs ago. He would move a mountain for me and he is very warm and goodhearted
His problem is he is an alcoholic. He drinks so much I expect to come home one day and find him dead. He drinks at home and never goes out.
Last evening he told me he had 2 glasses of wine, but he threw up all over my bed and in the sink in my bathroom and everywhere you could smell vomit.
I am so disappointed. I cannot do anything about it, but I need him to quit lying to me about how much he has drank and trying to make this my problem. I have told him to stay away from me when he is on a binge. He doesnt seem to get it. I will not file a restraining order, but I feel like he needs to understand I am not going to put up with it.
Right now, I am home from a 12 hour shift and washing the sheets he thew up all over last evening.
What do I do? Its soo sad.
2007-10-22 16:58:23 · 5 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
try to get help but you can only help someone who wants to be helped talk to him when he,s sober be nasty show him you mean it and tell him if it doesn,t stop you don,t want him there anymore
2007-10-22 20:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a brief relationship with an alcoholic but got out of it when I realized he was not going to get better & didn't think he had a problem. (he also was a little scary at times)
So I hate to say you need to leave him, but unless he is willing to get some help soon, I am sure it will only get worse. He needs to go to AA & Al a non would be a good place for you to go to if you plan to stick with him IF he will seek help. You can only do so much to help him...and sticking with him is not helping him. It truly IS Sad!
2007-10-22 17:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by SuziQ211 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Also, had a drinking problem myself. The only answer for me was the Lord. When He came into my life, I quit (smoking too). The alcoholic finally left me, but I have gone on with the Lord for many years now and He has always been faithful to me. Try to get him to read the Bible (New Testament first). See if you can get him into a good church. Pray for him to see he needs Christ. John 3:16
2007-10-22 17:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by Cee T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out. If I know anything about alcoholics, you cannot change them, ever. He is not going to do anything to improve the situation and no amount of prodding and pleading and begging on your side is going to change that. I'm sorry for the bad news, but I've had personal experience on this. As much as you love him, you should love/respect yourself more and move on.
2007-10-22 17:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't going to leave him, I would suggest you seek out an alanon meeting for yourself. You should ask him if he would consider going to an AA meeting, but you should definitely check out alanon. You will find a lot of support and help there on how to deal with this.
2007-10-22 17:08:26 · answer #5 · answered by andy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋