He lives with you and all, says he thinks its best you split, but when you ask him if he's sure this is what he wants he says he not sure, but for now he thinks its best? Obviously split,but, honestly, if YOU said this to someone that you say youre still in love with, what would you expect that person to do? How should I react, move on completely, or move on with expectations, that we may get back?
2007-10-22 16:40:57 · 9 answers · asked by dnk0717 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in the same position as you but a little different but i understand. So what u need to do is talk to him, i mean really talk to him and get it out of him to why he said that, what made him feel like he has to split for the best. There has to b sum reason why. If he says he's not sure i think he's afraid of losing u and what u guys share. But if he really wants to split make it loud n clear to him that there's no second chances cos they never work out, make him realise u ain't putting up with gettin stuffed around.
2007-10-22 16:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by Stunner 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you speak to him a lot? If no longer, attempt to get a few fundamental dialog going a minimum of two times. If you cannot do this, despite an possibility and no distractions (say consuming lunch beside each and every different quite often), then it is usually no longer valued at pursuing. If that works out, or for those who cannot get time to speak like that, then simply ask him out directly off -- ask if he is busy on the weekend, and say you had been making plans to head bowling or to peer a film or some thing, and suggestion he would like to head with you. Don't make a large deal out of it; individuals construct up "dates" into this large designated factor, however rather it is simply 2 individuals putting out, having fun with whatever in combination, and perhaps getting just a little nearer alongside the way in which. He would giggle at you, certainly if he is younger, however usually no longer. Most men could love a lady to be into them. If he does giggle, that claims extra approximately him and his insecurities than approximately someone who asks him out. If he does not deliver you a right sure/no reply (if he remains silent or whatever), ask him once more the next day to come or some thing, whilst he is had time to recover from the surprise and suppose approximately the possibility he overlooked :) I'm certain he's going to adore it. Good success :)
2016-09-05 20:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he hasn't moved out yet, get him in bed. may sound really stupid and low..but if you give him the best sex he's ever had, it might really make him reconsider. most people don't get back together after they go on break, so you REALLY don't want it to get to that point. if he's not sure it's what he wants, then he OBVIOUSLY still has some feelings for you. step up a little bit, look at your life and see what your doing. are you picking fights a lot? not respecting his privacy? not that you are always the one doing something wrong, but if you are fighting a lot, just try harder to make it work. a guy can't just lose his feelings in a short period of time when you guys have been together for three years.
2007-10-22 16:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take some time off... don't split, but don't stay living with each other. In other words, go back to living seperately.
Talk, talk, talk, talk, talk.
Problems work out with talk.
2007-10-22 16:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by David M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on completely.....if after 3 years he thinks its best you split then i don't think that time is going to bring you any closer....make a clean break and go on with your life
2007-10-22 16:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by Sherry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this type of situation you have to do what is best for yourself. Basically he is telling you that he want to be uncommitted. However if you let him he will use you to have his cake and eat it too. It might pain you a bit, but have pride and fortitude and refuse to be used. If he want to step back...let him...all the way back.
Always remember...only you are responsible for your happiness.
2007-10-22 16:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by Robere 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personal experiance, yea act like nothing happened you have moved on and he is just a memory. He is probably playing with someone else and wants you because he is comfortable with you. if you want him back then don't want him back you dig. best, bet move on immediately. Find someone else if he comes back it happenes if he doesn't you are already on with your life.
2007-10-22 16:46:32 · answer #7 · answered by hello 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope you learned your lesson about shacking up. There is no incentive for him to be with you for the long term. He doesn't love you he loves having nookie at the house he can tap whenever. Chalk this up to experience
2007-10-22 16:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by M C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry,but he's over you..
Move on..don't look back...
2007-10-22 16:47:27 · answer #9 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋