How do i handle this? I'm so confused.?

Question

My mom and my dad have been split for a long time. (Since I was 3) I have lived with my dad during the school year, and my mom in the summer ever since. My dad has always been an alcoholic, but it got even worse after he divorced my stepmother (a terrible woman). We moved into a house, just the 2 of us. He was never home. I was 15, and alone 24/7. Scared and alone. 1 night he had a little too much to drink that took his feelings out on me. My school pricipal called the police and ect. Now i live with my mom, and never speak to my dad. Its been hard 4 me all my life, drug addicted mother, alcohol addicted father, a step mother who loved to put people down; still i have never done drugs and i manage to get straight A's in school, but i am so depressed, its unreal. I cry (alot) and do things.. i just feel so numb,sad, and angry all at the same time and i just don't know what to do..my 16th birthday is wed and i feel so alone,i would rather have advice from complete strangers than friends

Answer 1

Don't ever completely rely or trust any friend in family matters cuz there r chances that they'll make u feel worse at times... Your situation is really hard, I understand.. It is nice to hear u r not into any bad things yet and keep it goin that way! u even get A's at school.. It all just proves u r a strong person.. Try not to get depressed by NOT THINKING about all these things.. Think about things u like instead to divert your mind[nature, pets etc] and y don't u own a pet who could accompany u all the time? trust me, it really helps! :)

Answer 2

Happy Birthday on Wednesday!! I will celebrate with you. You have friends that care about you online so don't be so lonely. There is no such thing as a perfect family, only on T.V. or some front someone you hear about. Believe me, everyone has problems, some folks are just good at hiding it. This is life and you decide what to make of it. At times life is harder for some folks and not so hard for others. Do you know that some pretty actresses that are famous and rich are just as lonely and feel unloved? Cameron Diaz and more. So hang in there sweetie and make your life, don't let someone else make it for you. Good luck

Answer 3

Give yourself a birthday present and get into Alateen. This is a support group that will help you learn to cope with being the child of an alchoholic. This is something you can do for yourself. And as hard as it is, you need to start asking for help. Ask your school counselor, ask relatives, if you go to church ask your minister.

Being the child of a drunk is as hard a thing to do as there ever will be. Its not your fault, you didn't do anything to cause it, and you can't do anything to stop it. Alateen will help you, support you, and befriend you. Do everything you can do to keep up your grades, its your way out. The better grades you can get, the more likely you are to get scholorships to college. Go to your guidence counselor and ask for help in locating scholorships for different colleges. If he/she won't help you, go to your principal. Keep asking for help until you get it. Talk to a school counselor, they should also be able to help you. You are going to have to be your own avocate.

I am so sorry the life you got is so awful. I'm sure you are a great person and a wonderful daughter and I'm sorry there isn't anyone to appreciate you. Please remember that this is just a small part of life, and as painful as it is, you can help yourself gain the love and family that you don't have now. Work hard, education is your ticket out of the life you lead. Love yourself and have enough self respect to avoid the pitfalls that your parents couldn't. While they might love you, their disease controls their lives, and until they choose life over the living death of drugs and booze, there isn't any hope for them. But that's not you, you have a chance to do better, to make it out.

I want you to know that I wish you a Happy Birthday. I wish I could do more, but I am sending good wishes and strong arms around you.

Answer 4

Oh dear,u cant change ur parents for the time being coz u have say that they r addicted...Anyway to filal parents is what we childrens need to do but u have ur own path too,from today onward,put more thoughts on urself n live for urself...Lonelyness can be cure when we have more friends n more concern from others...Try to be more independance..This is a chance that u can learn to be..everybody is selfish n the main things is when bad things happen,wach of us only take care of ourselve n never expect others will put a thought on u so try to be independance n start to have ur own planning n future.....Lonelyness is not scary,the most scary is u urself dun kuw who u r,what u r doing n what should u do in future

Answer 5

Stay strong! Take pride in the fact that you are successful despite the terribly strong negative influences. TALK to close friends. It's hard to come out of the shell, but after someone listens, things can come into perspective. Just remember, you didn't cause any of these problems. Pursue more activities in which you excel. Keep building your confidence. Have a great Sweet Sixteen, too!

Answer 6

Stay strong. Study very hard at school. Keep thinking about the time you will graduate from college and get a really great job. Keep thinking about the future and when you won't need either of your parents. Just realize that you are not the only one in a situation like this, there are people in worse conditions. Keep visualizing a great future.

Answer 7

I know how you feel. Because my father is a a**** for reasons I dont want everyone to now I do not talk to him anymore. Iam still battle depression, Low self esteem, no confidence and depression that can hit at nay moment, I can cry for no reason and just think my life sucks. It gets better, but does not alwasy go away.

I strongly recommend therapy. I do it and it is so nice to be able to tell someone everything without fear of judgement.
If you every need to vent or talk feel free to email me!!! I am a good listener!!!

Answer 8

Keep your head up. Keep up your good grades. Its unfortunate you were delt a bad hand with parents. Yet you obviously have a good head on your shoulders. You are a lone. You need to consentrate on making it on your own as soon as you graduate. Start making goals. Stop thinking of how awful you have it instead think of how goood you have it. Get a job as soon as possible and start experiencing life for yourself. There is a lot of great people out there. Good luck and I hope things will turn around for you. Happy Birthday Girlfriend! If you want to talk more, e-mail me.

Answer 9

this makes me sooooo sad to read this.

T.T

what do u mean you do things?
if your hurting yourself...

i dunno, i guess enibody who reali understand you will only make you feel worse and people who dont understand never say the right things.

frankly i have no idea how much your going through, and i dont think i ever wil.

it sounds frightfully hard, and i find it incrediable your even stil alive. i find it beautiful that a girl your age is stil able to live the life you live, and make do with the little your given.

cry cry cry. tears are better than scars.
angry, vent it, just dont follow the same steps as your parents. dont let any lame guy get to you. coz your so vulnerable right now,

dont let anybody bring you down, yourve come so far already.

Answer 10

Happy Birthday! Just keep your head up and learn from your parents mistakes. You seem well educated and have a nice head on your shoulders. Just continue to look forward and remember that everyone has there ups and downs and just take this as a stepping stone to learn from. Don't let anyone knock you down, just keep moving.Well have fun on your birthday.