I have been at my job for 7 months now and I love my job and everything that I do but, I have had a problem with the ONLY 2 employees that work in the office with me, they make it so obvious that they are having an affair. Both of them are married and his wife is even is friends with her! It really makes me uncomfortable and they have increasingly made all of this more obvious. The man in this affair and is my direct boss and her direct boss. Because of the affair she has free rein and can make any and all of the decisions. She goes and gets her hair and nails done during the day, can come in and out as she pleases and I just don’t see how this is fair to me when I feel like I work so hard but will never even get recognized because I am not sleeping with him.
It all became obvious to me when I noticed how well they knew each other and could tell me things that you normally wouldn’t hear coworkers knowing about each other such as, He (her talking about the boss) claims to have the softest lips ever and swears it’s because he doesn’t wear chap stick. One day the boss man asked the other woman if she would help him find a file upstairs in the storage. So they went out and closed the door and disappeared for 10mins returned with nothing in hand and she went straight to the bathroom. Next I walked by her office and glanced over to see him massaging her shoulders. He is always in her office and it doesn’t sound like they are talking sometime whispers. Another time I walked to my desk on a Monday morning and didn’t notice anything until she walked in the door (an Hour late) and asked what was on my wall. When I looked around there were two shoe prints. My legs are not long enough to touch the wall when sitting on my desk my feet are only a couple of inches from touching the wall. (She is way taller than I am) The fact that I didn’t notice but she did the sec. she walked in make me wonder. Today, to make a long story short, they began flirting while talking about something that I was going to purchase for the office. While in conversation with me they began talking about (exact words) “ (her)flavored paper towels, (him) a thing that slides into the other thing to make it work, (her) he can pin on the wall” , more was said it’s just too much to say.
Basically I just want to know what I can do to get this to stop. I do work for a big company (nationwide) but I know that we don’t have one person to go to for Ethics Issues. Also both of them have been there a while and I am the newbie and the fact that I am in a different “field” of the company. So they know everyone better than me and I don’t want to try to talk to someone at corporate that likes them and will tell them.
PLEASE HELP ME! I don’t know how to go about this and it is really affecting me.
2007-10-22 16:03:24 · 4 answers · asked by Princess22 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Other - Careers & Employment
Go to the HR director (unless one of the two is the HR director) and tell him what you have seen.
Interoffice relationships can cost the company huge settlements in the event the relationship turns south and one decides to sue for sexual harrassment.
As a whistle blower, your life will be made hell. So do not do anything unless you are ready to leave. If things get bad for you, be sure to document EVERYTHING said or done to you (like used condoms placed in your desk drawer or other retaliatory actions). Do not assume your name will be left out of it.
If you are dismissed, unfairly, then you can sue the company. I would not do anything until you have received your annual review, that way you will be able to defend your actions from your boss if he retaliates against you personally.
2007-10-22 16:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by Christmas Light Guy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems pointless to go on in this situation----like most jobs, which might be fun, the co-workers make it a nightmare.
For your own sake, I think you should quit and get out of this atmosphere----you need to be in a professional situation.
Start looking for another job, and get out....
You have only invested 7 months in this job----if the situation is this bad in this company, you don't want to invest any more time in them. You have very little to lose, if you quit right now.
2007-10-22 23:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't going to be able to change this. You have two choices. Put up with it and keep the job or get a new job and quit this one.
2007-10-22 23:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by Dan H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send an anonymous letter or phone call to their spouses. That should end things pretty quick.
2007-10-22 23:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋