My husband recently felt God calling him into the ministries. He had thought maybe a youth pastor. I support him in whatever he wants to do. I'm just nervous about myself being a "pastor wife". I'm a religious person but very young in my walk. I have prayed about it. But does anyone have advice for me. And can you pray for me too.
2007-10-22 15:54:39 · 17 answers · asked by Lordes Skye 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Please serious comments only. My husband doesn't like children in that manner. He is a father of 2 and a wonderful husband. Thank you
2007-10-22 16:04:59 · update #1
He is currently in the Navy so when he gets out he wanted to use his GI Bill to go to semonary school.
2007-10-22 16:09:54 · update #2
Oh my! I am the daughter of a minister and I can tell you that there are pros and cons to being a family member of a minister! However, none of the cons outweigh the pros!!
Hun, do not be nervous. I respect that you were honest and shared your fear about failing, as a pastor's wife. That shows what a compassionate heart you have for others and your love for your husband!
I will tell you that God does not give us a spirit of fear, So, understand that your apprehension is normal and I am sure that satan uses this one thing too. So, Pray and ask God to guide you and to take this spirit of fear from you! Let God be your friend and guide you through this walk! He will and you will succeed with HIM as your guide!!
I will indeed pray for you and it is a joy to do so!! Congratulations and my heartfelt prayers will continue!!
God Bless You,
Gail
2007-10-22 20:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have never been a pastor's wife but I understand your nervousness, I really do. First let me say that if God has called you to a ministry, He will equip you for that ministry. God *loves* using people that aren't the 'fanciest' in the faith to bring glory to Himself. He loves to use things that others might consider too small to make an impact so that there can be no question that it is HE who has done it, not the pretty, smart, charming person He is choosing. Know what I mean? That's my encouragement.
My advice is only really that of one lay person to another --- a wish I have for those in ministry from my own perspective as one of their congregants. That is that you continue to be (or grown in being, if you are not already) very transparent. I think the biggest temptation when you are in ministry is to pretend you are perfect. That benefits no one. It eats up your soul with dread and hypocrisy and it makes the people you minister to feel that *they* cannot be transparent with you. Everyone loses then. I think it is especially important when you are in leadership to be humble enough to be real and ask for help.
Remember, you've got time before your husband goes into ministry --- and I know the Lord will use that you perfectly equip you for all He needs you to do! Remember that *you*, dear sister, are the righteousness of God in Christ!
2007-10-22 16:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by KL 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My answer to you both is that as you have already done you need to first pray about it and run it through the scripture . Then your husband mustbe so totally sure that there ain't no doubt in your mind . And then he needs to let the Lord lead him down this path that he feels he is being led down . Now as for you all you can do is be there for him and support all of the ministry decisions that he makes but make sure that they line up with the word and if they do not then I feel that it is a ministers wife's duty to say something to him about it . I say these things because I am a pastor myself .
2007-10-22 16:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your husband truly has the calling that is a special thing. Not everybody has a 'pastor's heart'. It is a lot of responsibility and it takes real sacrifice not only from him, but you.
It doesn't matter how young you are in Christ, if he has the calling the Lord will take care of you. Has he gone to school for this or is this just in the 'thinking' stage?
If this gets serious and the road is paved. My advice to you is make an appointment with a couple of pastor's wives and come prepared with questions you have that are concerns. Their first hand experience with be worth volumes.
2007-10-22 16:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by Terry L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As the wife of a pastor, one of your primary "duties" is to support your husband.
As you grow in your own Christianity, your understanding and support skills will grow, too. You may even feel a call, yourself.
The important things are to continue to study the examples of the Bible, particularly the New Testament. Continue to love and support your husband. He is bound to have difficult days. Your love will help to keep him inspired on such occasions.
You are not an extension of your husband. Even in spiritual matters, you have your own skills, talents, blessings, interests, wants, and desires. Listen with your heart to all that God has to offer you. He made you uniquely, and has things for you to do, when you are ready.
It may come to pass that you have ideas that fit in nicely with your husband's ministry, or maybe they will be for a completely different one! Either way, the things you will be called to do are crafted just for you. You will be able to provide maximum service while reaping maximum blessings.
Working for God is fulfilling and generally fun. Like I said earlier, though, there are days.
Consider your request for prayers "in the works".......
2007-10-22 16:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by Barry F 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He must know the Bible, and be able to pick out it's hidden treasures and truths. He must also have the gifts of the Spirit. You can pray for God to help you both grow in the right way and be strong against the devil and his foes. Pray much and everyday. I think it's a wonderful thing to spread the Word of God. God Bless you and help you in your journey.
2007-10-22 16:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course I will pray.
Don't feel that you need to be someone you are not. Pray about everything. Remember that listening is always more important than speaking. Try to set a good example, which also means be yourself.
2007-10-22 16:01:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check out Mrs. Osteen.
2007-10-22 15:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by bobanalyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi :):):)
I would ask your husband,point blank, "Is is it your EGO,or
SPIRIT calling? He needs to be brutally honest with himself. In your eyes, is he capable of that? You maybe young in the walk,but you can trust your own(Christ within). If he "knows" that
this is what he is to do, then I say support him 100%.
Peace and LOVE Be :):):)
GLoW :):):)
2007-10-22 16:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by GLoW 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-10-22 16:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋