This question is to all the mothers out there: So my girlfriends parents don't like me. I have not done anything wrong, they just seem to have a negative outlook on our relationship. I know time will help, but what can i do to win them over too?
2007-10-22 15:41:38 · 6 answers · asked by jhunter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is hard and scary for parents to let their child start to date. Imagine how you would want your mom or sister treated by someone and act like that. Be polite and courteous not only to your girlfriend but her entire family. Treat them with respect. Think about where you are going and when you will be home. Take her places you would let your daughter go if you had one. Bring her home at a reasonable time. Allow her time with her family and friends. Maybe mention in conversation how your family is important to you. Just try to let them get to know you better and maybe you can win them over.
2007-10-22 15:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by iceemama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am currently going through this very same thing with my own daughter. Mothers have what is called a "mother's instinct". Believe me..it is usually right! There must be something she feels is just not right about you and she is concerned for her daughter's welfare. Mothers tend to just somehow to know these things..maybe not ALL the time but most ALL the time we are right. My daughter is currently with a guy that I have a very negative "feel" for. I have tried to give him a chance and somehow I just do not feel comfortable with him around my daughter. He comes off like a sort of "sneaky" kind of person and like he is hiding things. Of course, my daughter doesn't understand this. Just give things time. But don't be surprised if your girlfriend's mother just doesn't ever quite take to you. Sorry... Mothers are very protective of their children...especially their daughters. Good luck. I hope everything works out for the best.
2007-10-22 15:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by SeaMistress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Let them get to know you. Are you sure you haven't done anything wrong? Is it possible you and your girlfriend had an argument that you patched up and while she was still mad at you she bad mouthed you to her parents? That sometimes happens. When things like that happen it's hard for the parents to see beyond how their child was hurt. I'm only raising this as a possibility. Talk to your girlfriend about it. She may be able to help you figure out why they don't like you. Beyond that, just be who you are. It's their daughter you're dating, not them.
2007-10-22 16:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect them and you could earn thier trust. Look up the word respect, I'm serious here, and see if you have shown this in your characteristics.
2007-10-22 15:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat their daughter like a queen.
2007-10-22 15:45:05 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's the way you dress, the way you talk the way you sit. who knows.
if you know them well enough, ask them. "is there some reason you don't like me?" more than likely they will tell you.
2007-10-22 15:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋