Someone that I know believes in the "spare the rod and spoil the child" philosophy. It has been escalating and I want to confront the parent with shocking pictures of what could happen if he/she goes too far before I explore other options.
2007-10-22 14:51:54 · 20 answers · asked by jacknife5028 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
This is so sad:
http://vids.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=6373319
2007-10-22 14:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a talk with your friend's kid first, tell them if they ever get hurt by mommy or daddy that it is ok to talk to you about it. Yeah that is kind of intrusive but the law doesn't leave it to a parent to physically punish their children in such a way. A spanking can turn into a severe beating pretty easily considering a child will get desensitized to the punishment (physically, not mentally). If the child isn't screaming then obviously you aren't hitting hard enough and hence why there is escalation. If it doesn't hurt it isn't punishment right?
Well a smart abuser would beat with a phone book. And even better, a smart parent doesn't have to beat their kid at all. Because one of these days that kid'll grow up, and if mommy or daddy hasn't gotten beaten down by a friend or stranger even for doing what they do, that kid'll confront them. My mom used to spank me when I was really young, but guess what, she stopped when I turned big enough and smart enough to fight back (which started out with me hitting back and ended when I grabbed a kitchen knife and told her that if she ever tried to hit me again I would stop it by any means necessary). It's hard to respect a parent that has to govern with pain and/or fear. Your friend must be making up for an inability to parent. I would go to her and suggest he/she/they take a parenting class. I bet you they don't teach you to beat your children as punishment.
2007-10-22 15:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by stealthc 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I know it's hard to think about the other options, but I don't think this is going to work.
Even though the parent might be scared or sickened to see the pictures, and even if they swear to keep under control, when the parent loses his/her temper or gets into rage later on they are not going to be thinking straight. I don't know the situation, but I don't think you can reason with a parent who is, or is in danger of, seriously harming their child.
2007-10-22 14:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by Evie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is a parent that is abusing their child you need to contact the police or child services, if something happens to this child and you knew the parents were taking things too far than you are also responsible.
2007-10-22 14:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If the situation is such that you feel the need to do this, you need to be calling CPS, not looking for beaten children's photographs.
I'd bet everything I own that it will do NOTHING. The guy'll be convinced HE could never take it that far, and since it's so far removed from how he views his behavior, it won't make an impact that would change his behavior.
2007-10-22 20:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there have been cases once I do think of as a small new child that a spanking or 2 saved me out of issues that would have harm me. like the line, or strangers' properties. besides the shown fact that, I surprisingly undergo in recommendations a time while i develop into in line with danger approximately 6 once I have been given a spanking, and interior the middle of it I merely desperate to no longer be nervous of the discomfort (because of the fact i develop into offended) and that i finished crying. i think of it very much stunned my mum and dad and that develop into between the final cases they spanked me. At that factor i develop into sufficiently previous to reason with, besides. That and grounding worked a lot greater useful, IMO.
2016-10-04 09:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by koffler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont think shocking pictures will help. You are better off talking to a social worker or maybe reporting to DCSF. This parent needs help and her kids need it faster!
2007-10-22 14:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by Stubertsmom 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you believe the child is in danger the best wake up call would be a call to child services. You can do it anonymously, and you could save the child's life.
2007-10-22 14:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by paganmom 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I appreciate what you're going through, but honestly...scare tactics don't work in these situations because unless you videotape THEM doing it...they'll never believe they're being as violent as you're seeing them. If you think the children are in danger, you CAN call child protective services anonymously.
2007-10-22 14:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that may not work.
If you know of an abusive situation, you have to report it.
Child services or Childrens Aid will investogate.
You can remain anonymous.
2007-10-22 14:56:25 · answer #10 · answered by Robert S 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
odd...if you know it's going to far I would suggest after talking\trying to help the parent if that wasn't enough I would be calling local child protective services. it seems odd to me that you think showing pictures would help...if that's the case it has gone to far.
2007-10-22 14:58:04 · answer #11 · answered by vycki n 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋