This coworker and friend I have is an over all great mom,friend wife and coworker! she is very religious(christian) and compassionate, but yesterday she said something that bothered me a lot! we where talking about a gun shot victim! I said that over 140000 ppl in the USA get shot and/or die by guns,and she said that that is nothing but a drop in the bucket , as long as we have and prserve the right to carry guns bcause it is our only defence! now usualy I don't pay attention to this ,but this is a friend I thought I had ,a friend with compassion! I was wrong and it bothers me a great deal!
2 questions!
1) she told me that most ppl in their church carry guns! why are christians soooo afraid that they have to have guns and 14000 ppl are just a drop in the bucket!
2) this bothered me sooo much that I see her and I go the other way! I loved that girl! very good friends before this whole thing! what do I do?
2007-10-22 13:54:01 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
why don't you talk?have a conversation....tell her that you need to imrove the education system of the country.make her think more...that's what i expect from friends
2007-10-22 13:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ψ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I reside in Arizona. The only remaining wild west State within the United States. You are allowed to carry a weapon with you at all times. It has to be visible yet people conceal them and take the test to carry a concealed weapon. I never owned a weapon other then my sports rifle that I use at the shooting range. While talking on a pay phone with my x asking her what all she would like for me to pick up at the grocery store. A lowered truck drove by then stopped. I starred at the faces of the hispanics that were in the truck. Four shots hit my body dropping me on the spot. After two Months confined to the hospital I was questioned and shown mug shots of known gang members within the area where I reside. I recognized two of them yet never let them know. I call it street justice as I caught these two punks off guard and used an aluminum baseball bat on them crippling them for life. I now carry a weapon that is concealed. Will I ever use it?I hope that the day never comes when I will have to make that decision.
2007-10-22 14:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The drop in the bucket comment was unnecessary, but since she was such a good friend and usually has a clean record, you should give her the benefit of the doubt. Ask her to clarify her statement if it really bothers you.
Also, many people carry guns because they feel the need to self-defense. personally, I agree. The people who murder others are criminals: if they can't get one legally, they'll find a gun illegally. On the other side, the law abiding citizens are not going to want to obtain a gun from the black market, nor do they want their right (2nd Amendment folks) to protect themselves infringed upon. If they and/or their family is attacked, who can blame them for wanting a fighting chance to save their own lives and those of the innocent?
2007-10-22 14:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by Daewen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian, and this would bother me, too. I would never have guessed that so many people carry guns.
As for your question, I've had that happen. It is sad to let a friendship end over this. Give it time and see if it helps.
I had a friend once who was pro-life at all costs.
I asked her if her 11 year old was raped and became pregnant, would she get the child an abortion. She said No.
I could not get past it. I think that is child abuse.
I still was her friend but never felt the same after that.
I guess I feell so strongly about this because of a 5th grader I taught who got pregnant (she was 10) after a cousin raped her. She had the baby, but it killed me to see her at recess walking around, blowing bubbles.....pregnant.
2007-10-22 18:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by batgirl2good 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has every right to that firearm.
Are you surprised a Christian wishes to defend themselves just in case or would you have a criminal over run them any time?
It's not an ethical dilemma for you nor is it religious.
It's not just Christians that are afraid of criminals.
If you let a little item of amendment rights bother you, maybe you're not such a good friend to begin with.
Get A Grip
2007-10-22 14:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by Get A Grip 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen, GOD doesn't want anyone to hurt anyone else.
If somebody does try to hurt another, that person has the Right to Defend ThemSelves.
If you know how to Defend yourself Spiritually, you really dont' need a gun.
If you Don't Know How to Defend yourself Spiritually, get a Gun--(learn all of the Rules and Remember- it is a BIG RESPONSIBILITY to carry a Gun!) Think Carefully!
Tasers and Gas are good too (teargas).
2007-10-22 14:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by maguyver727 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's complex. On the one hand this country has a strong independent streak and owning guns is part of that. There is a somewhat ambigous constitutional amendment that allows for a well run militia to be armed.
On the other hand, in a society where guns have become more dangerous in recent years (semi- and auto-weapons), trying to defend their availability on prior grounds seems, well, groundless.
The other issue, it seems to me, is that many people of faith in this country, and that means mostly Christians, equate their patriotism with Christianity, and so guns are part of that mix.
Other than that, it seems that your so-called Christian friend seems rather unChristianlike in her callous attitude.
But hey, unChristianlike behavior doesn't seem to matter to Christians when they practice it.
2007-10-22 14:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by kwxilvr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This isn't a Christian issue, your girl is just a gun lover! Folks in this country, I'm talking about the legit license to carry ppl, embrace all that comes along with toting a gun. As a Christian, and those I mingle with, we are not gun lovers, and encourage stricter laws regarding this legislation. I would encourage you, as her friend, to speak to her about your disturbing feelings, if she dismisses them as not a big deal, it is one less non-compassionate person in your life. Best wishes, friend.
2007-10-22 14:05:04 · answer #8 · answered by Mookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Don't expect people in church to behave different from people in general. My view is that their butts are in pews but their hearts and fears are theirs and theirs alone.
2. Numbers on the news and in pews are numbing to all of us. Maybe she was just repeating something she herd.
3. Check the lady in the mirror for perfection before you loose a friend.
2007-10-22 15:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by Old guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, that was pretty insensitive, why don't you let her know that you were bothered by what she said and give her a chance to repent. if she repents you have gained a sister.
I for one am not against owning a gun, I am against however, the mishandling of guns, and this is what kills those 140,000 people every year.
give it a shot, save your friendship, she is probably because of the absence of her own opinion, quoting the opinion of her husband or others around her whom she respects and admires.
2007-10-22 14:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by setfreejn836 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot to be said about not discussing politics and religion - they are very emotive issues. We are all entitled to our own opinions and beliefs, and while your friend has views that you don't agree with, it doesn't mean she's not a kind and loving person and a good friend to you.
Overlook her views on these matters, and concentrate on the positive things you do like about her.
You wouldn't want her to judge you for one or other of your beliefs would you?
2007-10-22 13:59:23 · answer #11 · answered by concerned neighbor 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋