My bf doesnt want to spend the holidays with me, should i be mad?
so we 've been dating for about a year now and this is the first year that i am living on my own ( my parents are diplomats and are living in another country now)
so i asked my bf if he is willing to spend the new year with me (i dont celebrate christmas) and he said : "i always spend holidays at home with my parents"
i feel mad, first of all because this is the first time i will be spending holidays by myself, 2nd i only have my best girlfriend in this country and him and no one else .
i am not asking him to bring me home to his family , but i want him to be with me, and so i am mad
he said he can come after the midnight, but its not the same to me...............
2007-10-22 13:52:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Since you guys have been together a year-- that is a LONG time to be boyfriend/girlfriend because it means that you have committed yourself to that person and you are very involved in each other's lives. I think that he should want to spend the holidays with you, but you can't blame him for wanting to see his family members, too. You could ask him about this, and maybe you two will come to some kind of a compromise. Good luck :)
2007-10-22 13:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by daniellelaura118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After seeing him for a year he should be a little more sensitive. New Years Eve is a big deal with some and not so much with others.
Now First of all, it is not His fault that you have only him and a girl friend. He has traditions with his own family. Why he can't invite you is a mystery to me.
If he can't make it before midnight, he should just stay home. That is the point of New Years Eve, to spend it with the one you love; close friends or family.
He is sending a message that you may not be picking up and that is that he is not going to "let you in " until he is good and ready to. This is October and you are already talking about an even that comes in 2 more months.
I wish you the best of luck with this one! Hugs! Nana
2007-10-22 14:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said he spends it with his family, and you should respect him for that. It is to bad that he didn't invite you to be with him, but then maybe you don't mean as much to him as he does to you. You only have two choices, be by yourself, or invite some people over. You can be mad all you want, but that isn't going to change anything.
2007-10-22 14:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you are over reacting. Maybe you should just go spend time with him and his family.That way you wouldn't be alone.
2007-10-22 14:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by shanitrab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you should be mad, he needs to be more sensitive to you because you are basically all alone in this country besides him and your friend. tell him you are upset!
2007-10-22 13:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋