Now who sounds like the bad person. My mother and I havent been getting along for awhile. When she was with her previous boyfriend, she took care of his son. So all four of us lived together. I stayed away because my mom seemed to care about them more than me. My mom's bf hit her one day. I called the cops and he left. The next day i found out she was still going to take care of his son, who hardly bothered to even say hi to me at times when we lived together, and I said i was leaving. I left to live with a family member and my mom told me that his son was only there. Later after I found out that the bf and his son were there. I was angry and my mom and I haven't got along since. They moved out just b4 school started, and my mom kept delaying when I was able to come home. I came home the day b4 school started and they are out of the house. Now thats its my mother and I, Im often here alone, there barely any food in the house, and everytime we argue she threatens to make me leave.
2007-10-22 13:45:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I admit I get smart with my mom alot, because I dont like alot of things she says to me and things she has done to me.The most I do is get smart with her bad or ignore her , so who's the bad guy here? I just want to know.
2007-10-22 13:46:36 · update #1
I have a job so thats how i have money. Im eat my school lunch. She pays the bills n everythings. Im almost eighteen so Ill be alright i guess. I just really want to get into college right now. That why Im hoping on, and a way to pay for it.
2007-10-22 14:56:42 · update #2
Mom needs to see Dr Phil or Dr Keith Ablow. She has an emotional problem that causes her to vent and not make reasonable or sensible decisions or choices. There is a problem burried inside of her and she needs Couseling
2007-10-22 13:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by Housecat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are no guarantees in a relationship, parenting is forever. As a mother of a 17 year old daughter, I would never choose a guy over my child. We have had disagreements about guys I have dated, and if you ask her she will say the reason I haven't gotten serious with anyone is because she hasn't allowed it. I have the rest of my life to meet someone. And if for some reason my life is cut short, I still wouldn't regret choosing my daughter over a guy. She is my world.
I respect her feelings, and the disagreements usually arise if she does try to cross the disrespect line. There is no tolerance for disrespect. I do agree with you staying away if her boyfriend hit her. You shouldn't be subjected to those surrounding. Your home should be a safe place. If she isn't providing you with necessary essentials then maybe you should go stay with your father or with a family member.
I don't agree with treating your mom bad though. Even if she has done those things. Try being a better person than she, and maybe you will teach her a few things on how one should be treated.
2007-10-22 14:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by DAWN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares who is the bad person, you need to get help for your immediate living situation. I don't know how old you are, but if you are over 18 and in college, you need to see your adviser and see what can be done to help you. You probably need to get a job, but right now, you need food. If you don't have any money, find out where the nearest food pantry is and tell them your situation. Or contact the relative you stayed with and explain what has happened and ask if you can come back. I'm not sure why you are living in a house that your mother abandoned but I have to wonder who is paying the bills and how long that will continue.
Your mom cannot be helped, she will need to help herself and it sounds like that isn't happening. Help yourself, I'm sorry but its time to grow up.
If you are under 18, call the police and tell them you have been abandoned. They will help.
2007-10-22 13:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your problems -- you should have a more stable home life.
My opinion is your mom has been neglectful in your upbringing and is obviously struggling to make ends meet. Be proactive and talk with a counselor, clergy or close family member for further guidance.
2007-10-22 14:06:28 · answer #4 · answered by Cathy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom sounds a bit immature
I'm sorry about all that :(
2007-10-22 13:50:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋