I'm a junior in college, I live 3 hours away from my hometown. Friends from my high school are scattered throughout the country. Mom and Dad don't call me as much to talk. Have a boyfriend of 1.5 years. Im so attached to him because he's the only thing I have here. I depend on him for my social needs. He lives 25 minutes away from his hometown. I feel like if I lost him Id lose everything. I have a few close friends, and I'm involved in clubs. But I think since he's the only person I'm truly "close" to, I depend on him too much. My parents do love me, but they don't call me very often, they come and visit once in a while, and when I call they always like to hear from me. Is that just part of growing up and moving on? I feel like they don't really "know" me anymore. I feel like my boyfriend is the only person who truly knows me. I feel like because of this it's caused me to become too dependent on him, and I know something HAS to change. Im too paranoid in relationships. Help?
2007-10-22 13:24:47 · 4 answers · asked by Consultant 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've tried to make friends here, and I have a few, but people mostly just want to get drunk all the time, and I do work, and I'm involved in clubs, but I guess outside of that, it's my boyfriend. I'm not as close to my family anymore, but I don't live with them.
2007-10-22 13:27:09 · update #1
First of all, I think you've made a good choice by not joining the groups who will try to pressure you into bad things. And it's not a bad thing to love your boyfriend, but you need to depend on yourself as well. If you fell that you are not close enought with your family, you may want to invite them over for a long visit (maybe a month or so?) You guys could go out, talk, and discuss what's happening in your life. I'm sure that'll make you feel better. Just remember, don't rely too much on one person, because if you lose them, you'll lose everything.
2007-10-22 13:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by Evanescence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a active person that has a busy life. After each day is over you have a desire to kind of review the day with someone. Its ok to spend a lot of time with your bf cause without that you would go nuts. Talk to your mom and dad and tell them you would like to share your lifes journey with someone and for now they will have to carry most of that load til at least you finish your school then maybe you will have a better opportunity to steer your relationships to have more fulfilling meaning
2007-10-22 22:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by Tommiecat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The feelings you are having now are not a bit unusual for young adults who are approaching their Senior year in college. I know that is not an answer, but maybe you can take comfort in knowing that you are not alone in your feelings of insecurity. In our family we stay very close to the kids in other states or away at college through email and IM. You would be amazed how good it feels to be able to send them a message whenever you want.
2007-10-22 21:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not paranoid, you are feeling down moreso because of your parents inconsistency of communicating with you, and now you found shelter in your bf's arms...and yes you have become dependent on him..try to do some innovations in your activities, say do something alone without your bf, you have to on your own sometimes so you can test yourself too...you will end up in a difficult situation if you keep depending on your bf,,so actually you have two major problems here..........homesickness from your parents and dependency to your bf...........try what i told you, you will feel better..meanwhile cheer up babe, its not the end of the world........it has just started actually, wipe your tears now........i can be a friend to you!!!
2007-10-22 20:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋